"Strong woman" - how fashionable and modern it is. Even in films, since Soviet times, they praise such energetic and enterprising aunts who love to lead and point. Work comes first, family comes second, and in the family she is the leading usurper. For many growing girls, such heroines have always been a model.

But remember that Mymra from "Office Romance" is actually a weak and unhappy woman who dreams of a strong man, and the commanders in the family are the heroines of tales and anecdotes. Why go against nature and build Joan of Arc out of yourself? Being strong is the privilege of men, and women should learn to be weak next to their protector. How to do it?

What is the psychology of a weak woman

Now it is fashionable to go to all sorts of trainings and seminars: smart people teach business, personal growth, family tricks according to the principle: "Beat first, push with your elbows." Moreover, these wise men seem to point blankly do not notice each of their students - what is his gender, psychotype, physical and psychological ability.

As a result, after such mass trainings, weak businessmen bud, who gave all the money to teachers for seminars, their books and brochures, and in their personal lives they are generally completely desolated. After useless pushing with their elbows, they lack the strength even for love.

Things are even worse in trainings for single women on the topic “How to get married”. Direction is something like this:

"Don't marry a poor man!" A salary of 50,000 is a worthless rogue, 250,000 is sex for food, up to a million - you might think, for a million - feel free to marry.

"Be strong, rule over your husband!". He must be crushed with authority, kept on a short leash, otherwise he will be beaten off by hands.

“Do not forgive him for his faults, punish him for everything!” You supposedly have a weapon - your body and authority, if anything - deprive him of sex. And he didn't deserve borscht either.

As a result, after such stupid unfortunate lessons, unfortunate graduates are born. They smile en masse from photos of their women's edition, and at night weep into the pillow with burning tears from loneliness.

It's simple: you can't find free millionaires during the day with fire, but even "rogue" with a salary of 50,000 are not led to female training. And those who are being led are not needed for nothing: gigolos, opportunists who themselves pull money, lying on the couch.

Why are such trainings harmful and why does a woman need to become weak in front of a man? Seminars are empty chatter, theory that has nothing to do with practice. There can be only one practice - meditation with closed eyes: "I am strong, I can do anything!". And that's it!

Now prove it with real practice. You see, your closet is not according to Feng Shui? And the neighbor upstairs got drunk and yells. Let's move this cabinet alone to another corner and tame your neighbor! What's happened? She tore her back and got it in the forehead from the drunk? That's it! Bandage and lie down, you are our strong one!

The whole psychology of female strength is precisely in weakness, and not in command and impudence. Nature has rewarded you with another tool: miserable tears, weak physical strength, tenderness and affection. So use them, and a man will be able to appreciate it without losing his authority.

Ways to become defenseless and weak

What is female weakness? In the frailty of her muscles and naivete? Of course not. Weakness is the inner world of a woman, a character trait, and it is she who requires wisdom and flexibility of mind.

To learn to be a weak woman, you need to know the measure of your abilities and not go too far. Use your feminine privileges only when they are in place, and don't be Mrs. Omnipotence.

Women's tears

This is a weapon that can kill a man, or can break his heart. No man can stand the eternal whining or tantrums, accompanied by streams from the eyes. For the first time, he will feel sorry for his beloved, for the second time it will annoy, for the third - wildly infuriate.

Women's tears should touch and encourage a man to take some action. Here are the situations in which they can be shown to a man:

“I was walking home, and some gopniks were standing at the entrance! I was so scared that you were not around that I even forgot to call you out of fear! In this case, the man will seriously think about your safety and will protect you in every possible way.

“I had a terrible dream that you left me, and I burst into tears in a dream.” If you wake up your lover with these words even at night, he will pull you to him and calm you down. By doing so, you will show him how much you depend on his love.

“Forgive me, I am very guilty before you!”. Recognition of one's own mistakes should be with sincere repentance, and if it is also monstrous, then with tears. Well, on this topic you better read,.

Don't get into the habit of weeping over any trifle. Otherwise, the effect will be the opposite: a man will not believe a single tear of yours, and in general will stop paying attention to your streams.

physically weak woman

You never have to be a hero if you are standing behind a man. Otherwise, all heroism can turn against you. If you managed to move mountains and repulse the gopnik, then why are they afraid for you: and next time you will do it.

By the way, do not forget about your female body: by moving mountains, you can damage yourself not only the fragile bones of the spine, but also achieve uterine prolapse. And you still need to give birth!

Plus, you humiliate your lover as a man. For example, she decided to rearrange the furniture herself without consulting him. Firstly, you ignored his opinion on this matter, and secondly, you took away his job as an owner. Even if he is frail in figure, he is strong and sinewy. And you questioned his abilities.

Psychological weakness

Women by nature are born crybabies and boyaks. Therefore, do not try to overcome yourself in defiance of nature. If you are afraid of a spider - you can squeal, let your lover save you from him. If you are afraid of a scary moment in a horror movie - bury yourself in the shoulder of a man, closing your eyes, let him calm you down.

Let a man take care of you when you need it. Throw this female stupidity: “I can’t get sick, I have to feed my family” - and went to work with a temperature. All people get sick. When your eyes are full of gratitude for bringing raspberry tea to bed, a man will see his significance here too.

Even if you are strong by nature, and as a child you were a tomboy, then in order to become weak, you just need to relax. Strong women are to blame if they take all the burden on themselves and are proud of it. No one has ever awarded them an order for this heroism. Well, if only the medal "For Valiant Labor" in the USSR.

"I need you!" - this is what your husband or just a loved one should feel from you. In the eyes of a man, it is not a shame to be defenseless and vulnerable, otherwise he will not see the point in being a reliable shoulder and a stone wall for you. Trembling with fear, crying with resentment and sadness, seeing a defender in a beloved, showing weakness - this is normal for a woman. And spit on the idiotic training of strong women.

And what in return?

Indeed, one cannot be selfish and always take advantage of female weakness. But you have one more weapon in reserve: it is tenderness and affection. In gratitude for the masculine courage shown in battle with a bully or a spider, you must also reward your knight.

Your handles should not move furniture and repulse the enemy. Your hands are needed so that the house is clean, the husband is fed and caressed at night. Your hands are required to bring raspberry tea to bed when your loved one is also sick.

Let's separate the flies from the cutlets. You can only be strong in your wisdom. And all men's problems should be solved by your knight. If you go against nature, you will upset the balance, the relationship will deteriorate or come to naught.

Pay attention to families where the balance is broken - the wife is a usurper, and the husband is a whining henpecked. Is it really a bad picture? And for sure, once this woman did not want to show normal female weakness and studied at the training courses for her husbands. But you certainly don't need to repeat her mistakes.

They say weak women attract strong men. And what woman does not dream of a strong man who can solve all her problems, and not vice versa, as is often the case now? How can you learn to be weak if life itself dictates such conditions that you are both a woman and a man in one person: to a hot hut ..., and a galloping horse ..., and caress your husband? Yes, and there is no suitable example to follow. Where are you, weak women? And in general, the concept of "weakness" somehow disappeared, because you solve all the problems yourself: there is no time to cry, not to play some roles.

Well, come on, let's learn a little to show weakness. Until recently, I myself did not know what it means to be weak, but now my life often pleasantly surprises me.

How to learn to be weak. Instructions for use.

1. First you need to understand that weakness is not a vice, it is a normal desire to manifest the feminine in yourself. As our parents taught us, in this life the strongest survive, that all problems must be solved by yourself, and if you can’t, you are a loser. And do not upset your parents, because they wanted to see you as a strong person, and you did not live up to their expectations. So the girls grew up with the name "I myself."

2. One of the manifestations of weakness is to ask for help. How can you ask if we are so proud and independent! We pull, we pull, and we stretch everything, even the veins. And why so tear yourself up when you can simply ask. But it’s embarrassing and embarrassing to admit that you can’t do something on your own. How not to disappoint people! And there is one more position: “I asked, they ignored me or refused, so I won’t ask anymore, why be so humiliated”? I wonder who needs your pride? Or do you need help? for new shoes, ask your parents for help, and be sure to thank them - no one has canceled politeness.

3. Take care of yourself. Take care of your body. Be yourself, don't pretend to be something. When you are harmonious inside, you will feel your strength in yourself, discover the charms in yourself, and you may even like that you are a woman, weak and tender.

4. Wear dresses and skirts, stand in heels. In such an outfit it is easier to feel like a woman, and you will not, for example, move cabinets in a skirt, change taps, carry heavy bags and glue wallpaper. When you are wearing a skirt, you cannot run, but walk with small steps. And men pay attention to you: they open doors for you, offer to bring bags. And don't run ahead of the locomotive. If you paid for groceries at the checkout in a supermarket, do not grab your bags first when a man is next to you. I once had such a moment in my life. And the man who was next to me said: "I love Russian women: all by themselves." And I was even ashamed. Going up to the hanger at home, do not grab your coat first, but get up and wait. A man, whatever he may be, will still understand what is expected of him, and will meet your expectations - he will give you a coat. And let him feel needed in such trifles! Further more. If he thinks that you can't do it without his help, that's it - he's yours forever.

5. Some will think, why pretend to be a dumb sheep? The whole point is that you do not need to depict anything. When you portray something that contradicts you inside, this is the position of a victim, a person with low self-esteem. You need to make it clear to yourself that you are a woman and worthy of help.

6. . Life is very exciting and interesting. Don't forget about yourself in the race for results. Try to get the most out of life. So you will come to harmony with yourself, and to strengthen your feminine.

Learning to be weak is a fascinating process, and brings stunning results. Get over yourself. Start asking. Not being able to ask is not your strength, it is your weakness. Enjoy yourself and life will play in a new way. A man will show his strengths to you, and will be able to get a star from the sky for you. But do you want this? Good luck to you!

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Probably many are familiar with such a joke: “I so want to be a weak woman, but as luck would have it, the huts are on fire, then the horses are galloping!”.

Of course, this does not apply to all women, but it so happened historically that we take on a lot. We shoulder not only our own, women's, but also men's duties on our fragile shoulders.

How it exhausts us, there is irritation on men that they are irresponsible, not caring, etc.!!! You have to take everything into your own hands. And since the Universe is very wise, then " May it be to you according to your faith»!

Why, one wonders, after such requests from our side, a man should strain at all: “Darling, you yourself are “strong”, you can handle everything yourself. And I’d rather watch football, drink beer, ”the men argue. But this is only one of the options, and there are many.

herself like this

Once upon a time, I reasoned like that, and took on too much, and complained about men. And I came across not caring, and you won’t wait for gifts, and they don’t know how to earn money! Well, I had to do everything yourself.

And take care of yourself, and help yourself, and earn money. A convincing conclusion was made: I choose the wrong men! I forgot how to take care, I just didn’t notice it around. I can do everything myself!!!

Men were classified according to the type “my man”, if he shows attention and care, then if it ends at some stage, then this is “not my man”. So I lived with the conviction that I come across wrong men.

Although I read a bunch of books, watched various webinars, somewhere in my mind I understood that the reason was in me too. I worked on myself, I even started to change something in my picture of the world, and already men began to come across more caring, but something was missing for me to fully understand my problem at that time. Until I got to the Institute of Reincarnation and had a consultation with the captain.

All my men

During the consultation, several requests were worked out, one of which is relationships with men. There was and the session lasted more than three hours.

Consultant Natasha collected all the information from me about my relationships with men, different situations from life. Different realizations came, both looking through this life, and realizations from the world of souls.

I will not describe everything that I managed to see, but there is one key moment that changed my idea of ​​myself and of men in general. And that's what prompted me to write this story.

By the way, we found out that one of my purposes in this life is use your feminine energy, and that my main cash flow is through men.

And all my life I used just mostly masculine energies in myself, I just didn’t know how take care of men. It was really difficult for me to ask men for something. Suddenly they will refuse (strings stretch from childhood). Moreover, I can do everything myself!

And this is what happened: Natasha heard in my stories that I often repeat “my man”, “not my man”. And she offered such an alternative: Imagine that all men are Yours!!!

Just guess and try to see in every man potential assistant, without expecting anything from him, just radiate your feminine energy - the way you can. She shared her examples from life, how she worked on herself.

In general, I am a Practitioner by nature, I always try to check knowledge in action. Here, too, it was not long in coming. I registered inside myself that all men are mine, I presented and most importantly believed it!

How did I feel good from this thought! This became my resource state when translating this idea into reality.

Miracles are everywhere

Almost the next day, miracles began. In general, they always happen, we just often do not notice them in our daily worries.

First, I started asking a man, with whom I was then in a relationship, about almost every little thing, trying not to turn on my mind, so that he would not lead me into doubt again that I myself can do it

And in almost all cases, he did not refuse me. And I even noticed that his shoulders straightened when I said that I want you to do this, because you are better at it than I am.

Well, there are such women's tricks, there is also a lot of information about them on the Internet. She could ask for money without trembling in her knees. In short, I applied the received realizations in practice.

But I especially want to tell you about one day that happened somewhere on the 2-3 day after the consultation.

I went to Moscow. Heavy bag. I am alone, by myself, without an assistant.

I got to the bus stop. The one I needed arrived, I went to the door and ....

Before, I would have started dragging this suitcase into the minibus myself, but there were men nearby. Something no one was eager to help me, but now I can ask !!!

And I asked the man closest to me, he seemed to be sleeping and woke up. Of course, of course, he says, he was in his thoughts. I took this moment with joy. It was the only time that day that I had to ask.

I went to Moscow by car, I got on a minibus to get to the appointed meeting point with the car. I arrived in Moscow, and then sheer miracles began, there is no other way to call it.

I went down to the subway, I'm carrying a suitcase on wheels, but it's heavy. And men began to open the doors in front of me - both young and adults. I didn't even touch any of the doors.

Climbing stairs with a suitcase, if there was no escalator somewhere, did not exist for me at all. For some reason, some man's hand was sure to grab my suitcase at the bottom of the steps, and I walked light.

The resource state turned on, I smiled from ear to ear and thanked everyone around and the Universe. I had a friend with me, she made surprised eyes and said: “Does this happen?”. This happened several times while we were getting to the right station.

Then I got on the train and left for the Moscow region. When I got off at the right station, I found that I got off alone, no one was around. And it was necessary to climb the high stairs, cross the railway tracks and go down. Well, I think I'll have to.

Going up to the stairs, I wanted to pick up the suitcase, suddenly I hear a voice from behind: “Let me help you.” I turned around: a man was standing. Where did he come from? But before I had time to think, he was already climbing the stairs with my suitcase. I followed him like crazy. Miracles!!!

He lowered my suitcase, I thanked him, and he just smiled. I went to the taxi stand, I had to get to the place, and suddenly it started to rain.

There were no cars, but there was a man in the parking lot first in line for a taxi, and I just thought: if only he let me go ahead, I didn’t have an umbrella. A car drove up, but he did not let me through, he went himself.

I already wanted to accept, but suddenly the driver got out of the car and asked where I should go. I answered and he asked the man to wait for the next car, because he was going in my direction. A minute later I was already sitting in the car and just stunned with a smile on my face!

to be a woman

I got involved in this game, I liked being a Woman, I began to observe myself more often, pay attention to men just as Men. I changed my beliefs, expanded my worldview and attitude. She studied her past incarnations in male bodies, tried to understand what men feel, what they think about, what they want.

My acquaintance with the method of reincarnation turned my whole life upside down, in the best sense of the word. More than six months have passed since that incident. And miracles continue.

Now I can call myself a happy woman!!! I enjoy being taken care of by men almost everywhere I go: at home, on the street, while traveling.

At the moment I am not working, but doing my favorite thing, I am studying at the Institute of Reincarnation in the 2nd year. And my cash flow is now from a man and from another source. But that is another story. And then we'll see!

How much we women forget that we should just be happy And we don't owe anyone anything! That duty and duty are purely masculine energy.

And how, sometimes, shifting male responsibilities to ourselves, we simply lose this female energy and cannot radiate it. Then we accuse the men of inattention, that they do not notice us, do not care about us.

And they just do not feel needed, they do not understand what to do, there is no call to action. Because we smell like “masculine”, sorry for such a comparison. But unless a man wants to do something for a man, a man himself can do it.

Now I understand that first of all we need to remember that we are Women, what we really want. And before blaming men for their mortal sins, you need to look at yourself and ask the question: “What am I doing to be treated differently?”

This, at first glance, is difficult, but it is also simple. And most importantly, IT'S POSSIBLE. Love yourself, let men take care of you! Smile more often! Happiness to you, Women!

Have you ever thought about why there are not so many truly happy women and happy families around us? Why is it getting harder and harder to meet the one and only? Why is it so difficult for us to create really strong family relationships? And sometimes it seems almost impossible, and some of you have already lost hope of changing anything in your life ...

History "brutally" joked on women

Where do you think we learn how to be women and create family relationships? That's right, in our parental family. Now look at the women in your family. Were they ever happy at all? Most, with rare exceptions, unconsciously recreate the familiar scenario of mom and grandmother, simply because you were not taught differently.

And it is quite natural that the results of life will be about the same ... The events of the 20th century did not play into the hands of our women's happiness: the revolution, the New Economic Policy, the Great Patriotic War, perestroika. A woman had to become strong involuntarily, it was necessary to survive, no matter what. Left with small children, face to face with the realities of the harsh post-war life, our mothers and grandmothers "put the children on their feet", stepping over themselves, through their "I can't", simply because "it is necessary" and "it is impossible to do otherwise ".

We are "women who cut down the forest"!

The Great Patriotic War mowed down men, and women simply had no one to show an example of happy family relationships. The life of women during the war is very clearly shown in the film "Live and Remember": in one of the episodes, the heroines are engaged in a completely unfeminine business - they are felling a pine forest. And many of our women continue to "cut down their forest" today. A girl who sees how her mother "cuts down the forest", forgetting about men, automatically adopts the main life skill: to live without a man and be - "I can do everything myself."

Such a girl, of course, dreams of a strong shoulder and "female weakness", but such mechanisms work inside her that simply do not allow her to get another result in her life, except for the usual following of the family scenario. In fact, she's just not programmed to "be a woman" and "have a happy family." This file in her system is erased, it was not even recorded, and therefore she has to live according to the usual family scenario: "I myself!", "Men? Do they still exist?"

We are not taught the most important

We are not taught anywhere such important skills in our life, but taught that we will never need. We are taught tangents and cotangents, the bisector and the hypotenuse, we learned how to create electrical circuits and knew in detail how the shoe infusoria is doing (but does it matter how it does there?!). Who needs it in life? Do you often solve equations with logarithms while sitting with your girlfriends over a cup of coffee in a cafe? But how many hours have you spent discussing your personal life, looking for the causes of troubles and family conflicts, trying to find solutions and a way out of the impasse?

Previously, girls began to prepare for family life from the age of 3. A 17-year-old girl, when she got married, had at least 14-15 years of training in the specialty "woman" and "wife" behind her shoulders. Before her marriage, the girl necessarily "lost" all the roles of her future female life: wife and mother. And how much time have you devoted to studying the intricacies of this important profession in your life?

Looking for someone to blame is not a grateful thing, the most important thing is that this can be changed and you need to do it, otherwise you will not live your life the way you really dream, and your children will receive a non-working life scenario. You can defeat your scenario, and you need to do it, first of all, for yourself. The first thing to start with is to find intersections in your fate and in the fate of your mother and grandmother. And honestly answer yourself the question: where do I behave "like a mother"? What am I doing in my life like her? What results in life did she get? Do I want similar results?

I read a lot of manuals on the topic of seducing men, completed trainings on pumping sexuality, you are aware of all fashion trends. But you still don’t fully understand how to become an attractive woman, because you follow all the recommendations, and there is no violent reaction of men towards you. You have long suspected that you are looking somewhere in the wrong place or something is wrong with you. At the same time, competition around is inexorably growing. The struggle for male attention is not for life, but for death.

There is an exit?

They say that to become more attractive, you have to be smart and weak at the same time. How to become a smart woman? And at the same time - how to become a weak woman? How to find a balance between female independence and defenselessness? Everywhere there are the same type of advice on this matter. Every morning you whisper mantras that you yourself hardly believe in. But they say it should.

. Keep emotions in check. (But how to achieve this when the mood swings are so unexpected and defy any explanation?)

. Be moderately capricious and moderately cold. (But how to define this measure?)

. Think positive and smile - they love it. (And how - if you constantly want to sob from your confusion?)

And nothing helped? In any case, it is impossible to become happier by following a general recommendation. We are all very individual.

In order to learn to see one's own characteristics and ways of their best realization, Yury Burlan's System-Vector Psychology suggests starting with a more detailed study of one's hidden properties, the implementation of which should be emphasized.

So, how to become a weak woman in a smart way?

As described above, you are the owner of the visual vector. The most important thing for you (as laid down by nature) is the ability to establish emotional connections. At work, in the family, with friends - all connections should be sincere and filled with love. This is your weakness - and you should not look for a long time!

After all, if you fail to create a mutually comfortable relationship, your sincerity is rejected, then there is fear, discomfort, insecurity in yourself and in all your actions in general. Then weakness develops into excessive vulnerability.

Spectators who are closed in on themselves, instead of raising emotions and love, experience strong fears. And only having learned to bring their fear outward, into compassion and empathy for other people, they begin to create stable emotional bonds.

How to become a smart woman without losing your defenselessness is not a question. It is important to learn to distinguish between the way you create an emotional connection through trying to extort feelings for yourself from a real outward connection - when you love another.

Although this skill is largely formed before puberty, it also depends on the implementation of your visual properties in adulthood. If we dig deeper, as system-vector psychology teaches, many more interesting reasons for self-rejection will be revealed. To become truly smart, you need to learn them first!

To understand exactly what your natural potential is, and to really become the most feminine, ingenious by nature (while not losing your softness, emotionality - the so-called female weakness) you will finally be helped at a free online training in system-vector psychology Yuri Burlan. To participate, register using the link.

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