The universal law consists of one simple wisdom - do not do bad things to others, so that they do not do bad things to you, but you can safely add "And so as not to worsen your karma" to this.

One of the worst karmic deeds is betrayal - the karma of a man who left his family is very negative, because he caused a woman a lot of pain and suffering. And therefore, retribution for such an indecent act will inevitably overtake him, moreover, when everything seemed to have been forgotten long ago - such are the laws of the world.

What is karma when a husband betrayed?

“The laws of karma (unlike legislation) cannot be circumvented. If you try to evade karmic obligations, they will overtake you and force you to fulfill your duty in a tougher and even; ugly form. You will suffer, but the Universe will force you to put out the energy that it needs in its Great Development (but if your soul is in harmony with its karmic tasks, then most likely you will be happy) ”

The meaning of the family is to protect each other, to give their love and kindness, to continue the family in an atmosphere of comfort and spiritual harmony. This is one of the main tasks of any person. Alas, modern life leaves its mark - now it has become fashionable to leave your wife with small children, not really care about the feelings of a once close person, wave your hand at everything and think only about yourself.

But, according to karmic laws, such an act is completely negative, it greatly worsens the karma of a man, and also deprives him of the opportunity to be loved in the future.

In general, a person’s karma is made up precisely of his actions - good ones improve the aura, make our fate cleaner and happier, but bad actions entail cruel retribution and life lessons that will have to be worked out and learned against one’s will.

Since in marriage a man takes on the role of a breadwinner and a strong side, a great responsibility is placed on him. The current gentlemen do not always cope with this and prefer to simply run away, leaving the woman alone, without help and support.

That is, men personally deny their direct mission to be the protection and head of the family. The universe reads this and ... really deprives a man of all his advantages, and sometimes even sexual power.

“The karma of a man in the most general terms is the opportunity and obligation to be a creator, builder, mover of humanity. A man actively breaking through the darkness of the unknown is a fighter, an invader of new spaces, new knowledge, new perfection. He is a Man, and much can be forgiven for him. The karma of a woman is to be everything that will provide a Man (and Mankind) with movement, development, construction and perfection. Apparently, this task is a little more difficult, so a woman was initially given a little more of everything: a little more opportunities and a little more responsibilities, a little more potential strength and a little more problems, a little more intuition and a little more tests for the soul.

From the book "Karma of a woman, karma of a man"

The karma of those men who abandon their young children is especially vilified - such an offense will entail a real retribution, which cannot be got rid of. Not only does a man leave his family, he deprives the defenseless creature of his love and care, literally refuses him, although he himself gave birth to him.

The more suffering and pain such an act brings to loved ones, the more powerful the karmic retribution will be. The suffering of small children completely denigrates her to such a state that sometimes she has to pay karmic bills in subsequent lives.

The whole horror of this is that the child cannot imagine why his father left him, he considered him something permanent, one of the closest people, and therefore the sudden father's departure forever distorts the fate of the child.

It is for this reason that many of those who abandoned their families lead by no means a happy life in the future, and this only gets worse over the years, grows - karma comes into play. Men leave for a variety of reasons, but if this departure was not motivated by weighty arguments (for example, if the wife cheated or treats her husband badly), then this will certainly worsen karma.

Although many representatives of the stronger sex sincerely believe that this is their personal right: if I want, I get married, if I want, I get divorced. But it's not. You have no right to take responsibility for another person and create an alliance with him, in order to end up just destroying him and leaving your partner alone with his pain.

If you are not ready to be with one woman all your life, give birth to children and put them on their feet, taking care of them, then it’s better not to start a family.

“The karmic task of a man is the mastery of the World, the divine penetration of the soul into the densest matter of the Universe. A man explores new lands and spaces. He boldly ventures into the unknown. On the territory reclaimed from Eternity, he builds beautiful castles and nurtures sprouts that will nourish new generations of builders and explorers. He is a doer and creator. And it doesn’t matter what a man does: he sows bread, builds cities and ships, discovers new laws of the physical world or the subtle world of the human psyche, improves technologies, provides people with the comfort of earthly existence, etc. - the main thing is that he does it as can be more thorough. Everything that a man builds should serve the Harmony of the World. And if this is so, then the man fulfills his main karmic task. He is an activist. He is a ray of sunshine penetrating the dense matter of our world. He fills with the light of reason everything he touches. He is a logician. He cognizes the laws of Nature and puts them at the service of reason. He tames a wild beast named Chaos, he puts things in order in life. He is the creator and builder

From the book "Karma of a woman, karma of a man"

In fact, this quote makes it clear how far modern men are from their primary task, from their own essence. Denying his main tasks and his destiny, a man seems to send a signal into space: “I don’t want to be a man, I don’t like it, I can’t cope with my earthly duties.”

In the future, the fate of the one who abandoned his family and caused her a lot of pain is completely unseemly: many of those who abandoned their wives and children begin to drink, slide down the slope. They seem to have no place in this world, they begin to have difficulties with work, difficulties in the sexual sphere and in their personal lives. This is karma.

Does a wife feel the pain of an abandoned husband: a woman's karma

“A woman herself is called to give birth to life, apparently, therefore, all the contradictions of life are concentrated in her literally in a hypertrophied form! Men do not dream of such problems even in a nightmare.

From the book "Karma of a woman, karma of a man"

In fact, women now leave at least as often as men. And although the fair sex does not have such amazing karmic tasks as a man, there still remains something that negatively affects female karma - this is the pain and moral torment that the abandoned man experiences.

Naturally, even after the cooling of the former feelings or their disappearance, people for some time remain still connected with each other by invisible threads. Many women ask - can an ex-wife feel the feelings of an abandoned spouse? Here everything is individual, because spiritual development and esoteric abilities are different for all of us.

If the love between you was strong, and you are good at understanding people, you have some gift from nature, then you will feel vague experiences at a time when the abandoned man will suffer most acutely. For other women, this goes completely without a trace: they do not feel anything or are even in a kind of euphoric state from their newfound freedom.

But do not forget about karmic retribution - if you left a man who did not deserve such a fate, then you doomed yourself to work it out in later life.

In addition, such actions have a reverse, mirror side - according to the teachings of karma, after a while the same evil that you caused someone in the past will await you. But only amplified several times so that you repent of your deed and understand what pain you made the betrayed side feel.

“And the woman? The woman herself is like a part of matter, a part of the divine Nature, which is touched by a sunbeam. In any case, she is closer to matter and therefore can help a man understand matter, or rather, feel it. A wise woman is like a conductor helping a male ray of light to penetrate into the very depths of matter. It is like a lens that can scatter a beam that is too hard, soften its radiance, or, on the contrary, can collect, concentrate a ray of male light for more subtle and precise work. We can say that a woman is a cell of the body of the Primordial Deity. She is intuitive and sensitive. A man is a spark of the Divine Mind, striving to realize his body.

From the book "Karma of a woman, karma of a man"

It can be concluded that a man cannot have a full life without a woman, just like vice versa. Initially, both of these matters - male and female, are designed to merge together, this allows the couple to achieve unprecedented success, support each other in everything and create an ideal family lifestyle in which everyone feels good and comfortable.

When a woman leaves a man, she also deprives him of an important part, without which it becomes very difficult for him. To some extent, the departure of a wife from the family can break the future life of an abandoned spouse if he loses strength and faith in himself.

And in this case, alas, the karma of the ex-wife or companion will also worsen. After all, each of us has quite obvious tasks in this world, and an unjustified separation can cause acute pain comparable to physical pain - as if a piece of the body was cut off from a person alive. And this, of course, is a bad karmic act.

For this reason, the karma of a man who left his family and the karma of a woman who left her companion are in many ways similar. And it would be wrong to believe that a woman will have to pay less on karmic debts in the future, and a man more. Here, rather, it plays the role of secondary factors - for example, the weak half of humanity prefers to leave their husbands only for good reasons - when the husband cheats, drinks or is engaged in assault.

Naturally, in such situations, there is no need to talk about any karma, the man deserved it. But the stronger sex is more often guided by a base instinct - to leave the family, because it's hard, because the children interfere with the career, because the wife's figure has deteriorated and she has ceased to be beautiful. And it is in such cases that we begin to talk about betrayal, about a bad deed and that a person will face karmic retribution.

Unfortunately, the departure of a husband from a family is a fairly common phenomenon in the modern world. The most difficult situation is when a man leaves a woman with a newborn baby. A new mother immediately has a lot of disturbing thoughts in her head: where to get the strength to live on and not break, how to survive the betrayal of a loved one, for what money to exist?

It happens that the birth of a child, instead of uniting the family, on the contrary, gives impetus to the flight of the father of the family. There are many reasons for such an act: loss of sexual interest in a woman, deterioration in the appearance of a wife after childbirth, fear of the unknown, accumulated fatigue, fear of material difficulties, problems in communicating with a spouse, the appearance of another woman, etc.

A husband who has run away from responsibility with double strength injures women. Firstly, the betrayal of a loved one is always difficult to survive, and secondly, the husband also abandons a newborn child who so needs a strong and loving family.

1. During a breakup, people experience pain, depression, guilt, and self-pity. And you need to be patient and just survive this period, because in some cases nothing can be returned (and sometimes it makes no sense), and you need to learn to live on, moving towards new events, meetings, relationships. The goal of an abandoned woman is to learn how to be happy again. No matter how difficult it is to accept it, but life after the departure of the husband from the family does not end, but perhaps a new stage in life begins.

2. A woman needs to realize that she was not left completely alone. She has a little man for whom she is the whole universe. No matter how bitter and sad it is, you can’t give up, because now she alone has to take care of the baby, only she has the main responsibility for the future life of a small person.

3. Accept any help and do not hesitate to ask your friends, loved ones and relatives yourself, in the early stages it will be extremely useful. Redistribute worries about the child between relatives, allocate "areas of responsibility". See for yourself that friends and family, neighbors and even just acquaintances are ready to help, if you clearly explain what it can be.

4. Make a schedule of meetings with close friends and relatives, stick to it strictly. Communicate with them on the phone more often - isolation can aggravate depression.

5. Walk outside regularly with a stroller or baby sling as often as possible during the day. Move all the time, because constant moderate physical activity helps to cheer up.

6. Do not be skeptical of the well-known proverb that time is the best medicine. As practice shows, after some time, everyone who finds himself in a similar situation reacts more calmly to her husband's act. However, there is no specific period, everyone has their own time frame for calming the soul.

7. Women's forums are filled with such stories. And many women successfully overcame all difficulties, improved their lives and found female happiness. Read online user stories, ask forum members for advice, share your experience. Even strangers are ready to provide support and discuss a difficult life situation.

8. Baby yoga will help satisfy the physical and emotional needs of mom and baby, distract from sad thoughts and experiences.

9. Do not try to hide and suppress your mood, on the contrary, share your worries with people, pronounce problems. And the more times you do it, the easier it will be on your soul.

10. One of the major issues is money. Of course, one with a small child in her arms is difficult to provide for both. Alimony up to a year to a child is the protection of his right to the necessary material support. If the husband, after leaving, does not financially participate in the life of the child in any way, then it will be necessary to go to court.

11. In addition to the “default” happiness that appears in the house at the same time as the birth of a child, it can (and should) be considered that a child is your personal “perpetual” engine, existing in a single copy and working from your positive emotions.

12. If necessary, seek qualified help from a psychiatrist or psychotherapist who will help to cope with emotional experiences.

Unfortunately, difficulties are inevitable, but one must learn to treat them philosophically. Your task is not to become discouraged, but to find an opportunity to get the most out of your current state. Remember that problems in life only harden, make you look at current events from a different angle.

Prepared by Valeria Skripkina

Hello readers. The current topic will be discussed now. What to do if the husband left with two children? A very sad situation comes out when a man leaves and leaves you alone with two small children. Despite the psychological severity of the situation, a single mother has to wonder where to get money in order to be able to provide for herself and her children. A man can feed you with promises that he will financially help, fully provide for children. How long will this support last? Usually, support stops when he meets a new passion and ends completely if he starts a new family life. All his finances go to provide for the current family and children. He won't need you. Promised and left.

Threw with the kids

I think the main difficulty of the situation is the test of stress for children. For kids, the departure of a father from the family is a strong blow to the child's psyche. We all experience unpleasant moments from time to time. The main thing is to understand that everything in our life can be solved. You can find out how to survive a divorce with your husband.

At first, you can give yourself slack and cry. Now, it is the very situation in which the release of emotions is justified and you should not suppress these feelings in yourself. Your crying will help to remove the accumulated negativity and pain of experiences a little. You need to clear your mind of unpleasant emotions as soon as possible by any means. Do not keep all the pain in yourself, give it a splash.

Free your head? Clever, move on to the next step. Gather your strength and get ready to move on. Do not drag out the experience over time. If you delay, you will sink into depression, and it will be much more difficult to get out of it. Think about your children, they look at their mother and empathize with her. You have to become stronger for them.

How to live on

We remove the panic

Children are not a problem, they are your family. They are the very force that will help you move on. You will move mountains for them. Your first priority is to find a job. If you are not given the opportunity to leave the children with someone in order to find a full-fledged job. Try to search the Internet for remote earnings. Now this is a pretty relevant opportunity for part-time work. At one time, left alone with a child in my arms, I maintained the pages of Instagram accounts and set up targeted advertising. Therefore, I say with confidence that you can earn money on the Internet while sitting at home with children in your arms. It's better than being without money and crying into your pillow.

Support of loved ones

Now is the time to seek support from family and close friends. Don't be ashamed and don't hesitate to ask for help. We are all human and can understand the situation. Now the main thing for you is to stand on your feet in what is happening.

Alimony request

Beloved went to another, and forgot about you and the children? Remind him that the kids want to eat. Let him pay child support. Also, if the child has not reached the age of 3, alimony is relied on for the maintenance of the ex-wife. You can learn more about this.

Negotiation

The break has occurred. We need to solve problems. Since you are the wallpaper parents of common children, you need to solve a few questions:

1. Who will the children live with?
2. Days and times of meetings with children;
3. The amount of alimony for children and spouse, if one of the children is less than 3 years old.

These are the main 3 questions. If you cannot resolve them yourself, go to court.

When the financial part has been sorted out, we turn to the moral. If you still have feelings for a man, you can try to restore a relationship with him. You can find out how to do this. Again, it all depends on your feelings and mental state. If there was no betrayal, and the gap was due to nonsense. In no case do not try to manipulate with the help of children. This will only make the situation worse.

self-control

In a breakup, the blame lies with both partners. Don't blame yourself or him. A man, because of his increased importance, will expect you to ask him to return, no matter what. Don't let him see it.

Show him that you can handle the situation. His departure did not affect your life. I understand that it will be difficult, but you can handle it! And not only will you succeed, but you will be happy.

take care of yourself

It's time to take care of yourself and your children. It's time to restore your life and improve your life. You should already deal with the financial component for the maintenance of yourself and children. If the husband expresses a desire to see the kids, give him such an opportunity. The more loyal you are to him, show how well things are with you, that you are constantly positive. The husband may want to support you financially on his own initiative, even to return to you.

Time for yourself is vital to relax and stay positive. If you are having difficulty with this, seek the help of a psychologist. Set aside at least one hour a day for yourself. This will help you in your recovery. Over time, you will begin to sincerely enjoy life again. Subsequently, you will have new interests, goals.

• Emotions have accumulated, if you want to cry, cry. Through tears, you get rid of negative emotions and reduce feelings of pain and disappointment;
• Don't suppress resentment. Experiencing stress is normal. Suppression of resentment will not give you the opportunity to move on, as it will accumulate and absorb you more and more;
• Find the means to support yourself and your children. Request alimony from your husband;
• Do not rush to resume communication with your husband. Make contact with him when you reason adequately, without being exposed to emotions;
• Build friendships with your husband. This is necessary for your children and it will be easier for you to receive material support from him;
• Make time for your loved one. This time will help get rid of stress, bring your emotional background and mental state back to normal;
• Prove to yourself that you are the means to a happy life! Children are your motivation and support.

Girls, life doesn't end there. I went through a divorce myself. My husband left me with a small child in his arms. Now I am in a new marriage. I survived this period, met a new husband and gave birth to another small miracle. I assure you from my own experience. You can find your happiness even after a divorce. If there are people among you who have good and practical advice on this topic, I will be glad to read in the comments.

A man and a woman get married and have a child. Normal situation. But for some reason, it suddenly turns out that this “normal situation” turns out to be an unbearable burden - and the husband leaves, leaving his wife with a small child in her arms. What to do? Stigmatize? Trying to get it back? Is it proud to pretend that this person did not exist in your life at all?

It is important to understand the reasons why he did so.

Reason 1. Fear

A man sometimes cannot admit to himself that he was overcome by fear. He is unbearably afraid to take responsibility for himself. Now he has to do something all the time: provide for his family, take care of his wife, take care of the child ... This burden of responsibility puts pressure on the man, and he prefers to retire.

And besides, he is haunted by the fear of change - he will no longer be able to live the way he used to, everything has changed, it has become so difficult, and the old life was much easier and more pleasant. He doesn't want to give it up at all. And so escaping is the easy way out.

Reason 2. "I'm not doing well"

How often can one hear such a dialogue!

Why did you leave the family?

I realized that I can't handle it.

This is a painful blow to male ego. Feeling inadequate, realizing that you can’t cope with a new role is terrible for such a man. True, he most likely forgot to think about how a woman will now cope, left without her support and protection.

Reason 3. He is no longer the center of the universe

Before the birth of a child, a man was the main person in the life of his woman. After the birth of a child, everything changes - in the first place is now a small person who has just been born. It is he who is given all the attention, and the husband, as it were, fades into the background. This change of many men is unpleasantly shocking. They do not want to put up with second roles, and dissolve in the dawn fog, as if they never existed.

Reason 4. Relationship problems with wife

The previous reason flows smoothly into this one. He gets tired at work, comes home - and there is not rest, but like another job, moreover, under the continuous cries of the heir. And an exhausted, exhausted wife. She needs help, and the man needs rest. A series of mutual recriminations begins.

In addition, a young mother, as a rule, has no time to follow and take care of herself, but there is nothing to say about intimate life - is it up to her here?

This whole situation puts pressure on the man, and he considers it good to leave the territory.

Reason 5. Mistress

Old as the world. If a man cannot get something at home, he will go and get it elsewhere. And then, for example, a nice colleague appears on the horizon. And the man begins to build a new relationship with another woman. I did not have time to look back, as I left my wife and two children.

Reason 6. "Well-wishers"

How often they say about broken families that their "relatives divorced." And indeed, when all sorts of nasty things about your “other half” are whispered into your ears from both sides, you start to think: maybe this person really doesn’t suit you? And generally unworthy? And now the family is already on the verge of divorce, because diligent relatives, friends and colleagues have said different things.

How to survive after a divorce without money and with a child

Despair and a sense of hopelessness - this is what most often experienced wives abandoned with children. It is not clear how to live on, the earth has left from under the feet, so that, as it seems at that moment, it will never return. It is not true. And the earth will return under your feet, and it will turn out that it is quite possible to live on.

Where to begin? Make a plan. Write down your income and expenses, identify resources, understand what and how much time it takes. Set goals. Some goals will cover the next couple of days, and some may turn out to be half a lifetime.

Start implementing the plan. Perhaps you will look for a job at home, perhaps you will learn a new profession (for example, you have a certain amount of money for which you can afford cutting and sewing courses or take up Photoshop on your own), or it may turn out that you have a cottage that should have been sold long ago and invested in something worthwhile.

Be busy all the time. This therapy saves both from gloomy thoughts and from the temptations to enter the river a second time, into which it is not necessary to enter. Labor will bear fruit - and now you are no longer a "divorced woman without a penny", everything is getting better with you.

In your plan for life there must be a place for activities with a child- so that mom does not dissolve in work, but takes part in his life. To do this, you definitely need to find an internal resource.

And last - watch your health. It's like on an airplane - first the oxygen mask is put on yourself, and only then on the child. Your health is a matter of your well-being with your child. If you are healthy, calm and smiling, there will be much more joy and ups in your future and in the future of your child than troubles and falls.

It is important that your son or daughter is not affected by the breakup of their parents. No matter how difficult and bad - try to control yourself.

Realize that breaking up is something that has already happened to you. Now you do not know how to survive a divorce, but believe me, this is not the end of the world. Even if you don't feel like it right now. Do not think that life is over - with the departure of a man who, by the way, did not act in the best way, you get a chance to find something new and beautiful in the future.

It doesn't take five minutes to get over a divorce. Worrying is normal. The most difficult period is considered to be 2-3 months immediately after the divorce. Psychologists advise not to make any radical decisions at this time. Give yourself time to cool down, calm down and look at things soberly.

It is important that your son or daughter is not affected by the breakup of their parents. No matter how difficult and bad - try to control yourself. Children are sensitive to your mood, try to provide them with the maximum psychological comfort that is possible in such a situation.

No matter how trite it may sound, but you need to explain to the child that dad and mom no longer live together, but both continue to love him. Tell it to the child in such a way that your explanation fits into the framework of his idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe world. That is, speak to him in a language accessible to his age.

And be sure to explain that what is happening is not his fault. The psychology of the child is such that he, as an egocentric, subconsciously considers himself guilty. "Mom and dad got into a fight because I broke a vase." Remove from him the burden of responsibility for adult relationships, for which he, in fact, should not bear responsibility.

You are hurt, you are offended, you are angry. You experience a whole range of emotions in relation to your ex-husband, and they are all mostly negative. But turning a child against his father is a bad idea. Because he loves him. Moreover, he feels like a person who has half of mom and half of dad. By saying bad things about the father of a child, even if he deserved it, you are, in fact, turning the child against some significant part of him. As a result, he can get such a psychological trauma that will ruin the life of your child for many years.

If the ex-husband does not refuse paternity, is not dangerous for the child, helps and wants to see him - let them do it. Permission to visit or meet on neutral territory. After all, a good "Sunday Dad" is better than none.

You have the heavy task of raising a child without a father. You will work hard, you will be tired, you will have to do a lot by yourself. There is no place for entertainment in this busy schedule, and a single mother often “drives” herself, sooner or later coming to nervous, and sometimes physical, exhaustion.

To prevent this from happening, allow yourself a break. Sometimes an extra half hour of sleep is more important than a polished stove, and a ten-minute walk in the park is more useful than perfectly ironed creases on your trousers. Allow yourself at least once a day to "reward" - enjoy some little things. Three minutes of dance under the radio. Five minutes to calmly drink tea. With candy. And you can also smear your hands with a cream that smells delicious. Or put on your favorite sweater. These little joys make a big difference. So don't forget about them.

Conclusion

Probably, there are women in the world who simply step over a divorce from a man who leaves his wife and child, and live on. Everyone else is having a hard time. But you know what? You can not give up - because you have you and your child. It may not be easy, but you will definitely do it.

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