Hello dear readers! It is impossible to prepare for the first pregnancy. Even if you have been waiting for this good news for a long time, the news that in 9 months you will have a baby is always sudden, spontaneous and unexpected. She enters into an incomprehensible state, a man, like a woman, does not know how to behave and what to do next.

The wife is pregnant, what should the husband do - this is what will be discussed in today's article. You will learn how to behave with a woman, how to avoid troubles, cope with hormonal surges and safely live this difficult moment, maintaining balance and spiritual harmony.

Now everything primarily depends on the man, so these 5 minutes that you spend reading will not be in vain.

Accept her for who she is

The first thing you need to remember is that now is not the best time to sort things out. If before pregnancy something didn’t suit you in your woman, try to close your eyes to it or break up altogether. Weigh all the pros and cons. Better in peace, but apart, than to worry together.

Now she most of all needs the support of her husband and his participation. Find out about her trips to the doctor, ask if she is cold during a walk, if she is tired from going to the movies with friends, and so on. You're doing a small thing, but for her, it's a big deal.

You can not. This is beneficial for you too. You are probably familiar with cases when a wife sends her husband at three in the morning to the store for strawberries. This seems to be normal practice. Indeed, some girls have an urgent need for certain products.

However, if you do not show care and attention, then the physical need can also be combined with the psychological one: “She doesn’t need fried potatoes at five in the morning so much as the feeling that her husband loves her and is therefore ready to rush to the ends of the world for the sake of important things for the baby. vitamins."

The more “small amenities” you do for your wife, the more she will strive to behave approximately and not throw scandals at you.

Go for an ultrasound

Be sure to go for an ultrasound if you have the opportunity. This, again, is more beneficial for you. After some time, the man gets very tired, the woman takes out the brain, but at the same time, nothing seems to happen, the girl just gets bigger.

Seeing your own child, you will understand why, in fact, you are “suffering”. These are unforgettable emotions that will give you strength, energy and, most importantly, patience.

After the second or third ultrasound, when the child is already clearly visible, the outlines will become clear, you will have no questions left about what a man should do when a woman is pregnant. Everything will become obvious. You yourself will want to perform feats and love your one and only.

I can also recommend a book "Super dad" Viktor Kuznetsov. It tells in detail about what needs to be done within 9 months and the first years of a baby's life. If you strive to become a great father, the book will be a great help in your endeavors, and the woman will be pleased that you bought it, even if you didn’t master it to the end.

On this I say goodbye to you, until we meet again and do not forget to subscribe to the newsletter.

Husband, father, and writer Aaron Gouwaya made so many stupid mistakes during his wife's pregnancy that he is now an expert on the subject and ready to tell you the things you need to know to avoid unforgivable mistakes!

When it comes to pregnant women, I'm not an expert. Hell, I still have a hard time understanding women in general. Actually, I'm more of an anti-expert. Luckily for you, I made so many stupid mistakes during my wife's pregnancy that I am now highly qualified on the subject to tell you the things you need to know to avoid my mistakes.

Here are the 13 most important things to remember:

1. Feed her constantly

Each of us is aware that food is the most important thing for a pregnant woman. But laymen may not realize that time is of the utmost importance. The point is, when your woman says she's hungry, she's hungry. She needs to be fed immediately or she will eat you. Realize that "I'm hungry" doesn't mean she's looking forward to your scheduled lunch in an hour. This suggests that she wants something to eat before you go to a restaurant. And then again, when you're in the car. If your woman does not have the opportunity to eat on time, then at best it threatens you with insane bitchiness on her part, and at worst - bodily injury.

2. Food: all yours is hers, all hers is only hers

You are probably married or have just been together for several years, which is why you bought into all this nonsense about spiritual unity, living together, etc. And while some of that applies, when it comes to food, "bets are off." If you eat her food (or food you bought for yourself but she thought it was for her), she will be ready to kill you. Not physically, of course, but when she gives you a real tantrum, you will prefer physical violence to this. Once I had the imprudence to eat my wife's chocolate, and when she discovered this, she became furious. It was one of the most terrible sights I have ever seen. Just don't repeat my mistakes.

3. Be prepared to gain weight

Please note that so far all the advice is about food. It's not a mistake. Sooner or later she will have a strong appetite. When my wife was pregnant with Will, she really wanted pizza, kit kat and grapefruit. During her second pregnancy, fruit salad was a whim and nothing more. But you should also know that one of the unmentioned side effects of pregnancy is the extra weight that you will gain. Yes, men get better too. This is mainly due to the fact that we become partners with our wives in enhanced nutrition. I gained about 13 kg during my wife's pregnancy five years ago. This is nothing compared to how much she weighed with the baby inside! So watch yourself.

4. Don't tell her she's getting better.

I knew that my wife was pregnant and that pregnant women put on weight. That's why I didn't see anything wrong with telling her that she had a nice round belly. In my opinion, this is a natural phenomenon and everything is as it should be, and I have never seen anything more beautiful in my life. But after I had the imprudence to tell her about it a couple of times, she screamed with such anger: “STOP TELLING ME THAT I AM FAT! I DO NOT NEED TO REMIND THIS EVERY TIME!” Then it did not matter to her that in my eyes she was more beautiful than then, she had never looked in her life, and that I understood that she would recover. And so we come to the next point...

5. The Pregnant Mind Does Exist

I know this may be a bit of a cutesy term. But it's not. The "pregnant mind" is normal. It starts with mundane incidents like finding her sunglasses while she has them on her head, which is charming in its own way. But soon everything develops into strangeness of a different kind. For example, once my wife left open the door to the basement at a temperature of +5 degrees and froze our first floor, while still leaving the opportunity for thieves to enter the house. By the way, I asked my wife to help me with a couple more examples of the "pregnant mind", but she couldn't because she doesn't remember.

6. Goodbye sense of humor

7. Say goodbye to sex

Listen to me carefully - you will be sexually unsatisfied. The first trimester is the worst. This is a period when many changes will occur in her body, and her well-being will be really bad. So, my friend, turn on the porn and remember that your hand is your best friend in this situation. But there is good news: twice during pregnancy, you still have sex. You will have one to two weeks of time when her sex drive returns at the beginning of the second trimester. Enjoy it because it won't happen again for the rest of your pregnancy. Toward the end, your wife will be so desperate to give birth quickly that she will use sex in the hope that it will help the birth.

8. Yes, her breasts are much larger; no you can't touch them

Since we are now discussing the topic of sex, let me tell you about nature's cruelest trick. A woman who carries a child under her heart is magnificent. This "pregnant" beauty that everyone is talking about exists. Miracles happen to her hair, nails and breasts. Size A becomes miraculously size C, B becomes D, and C becomes “Hallelujah, thank God!” Breasts swell to gigantic proportions, bras are literally torn at the seams. The only problem is that you are not allowed to touch your breasts. It's like going to the pet store, seeing cute puppies behind glass, but not being able to pet them. They are adorable and you want to take them home forever, but if you try to even touch her puppies, she will be ready to destroy you. Believe me.

9. Your dick can't hurt a baby

Let's put everything in its place right away - your penis cannot affect the child in the womb of your wife. Got it? It doesn't matter if you're on par with Ron Jeremy, your dick won't scare a kid, and you certainly won't poke him in the forehead. Any such thought will make your pregnant wife hysterical. There is nothing worse than talking about your penis and laughing hysterically. So I warned...

10. Pillows will replace you

Didn't you spend a lot of money on a mattress? A memory foam or pillow top mattress that makes you feel like 1,000 little angels are massaging you all night long. Well, I hope that you also managed to get a comfortable sofa, because most likely it is on it that you will have to move during your wife's pregnancy. And not because she needs more free space. It's all about the pillows. Yes, it is in them. You become more and more out of place as you get pregnant, but 37 pillows - including the godforsaken full-size pillow - become truly vital nighttime companions. And when it comes to fighting, you will be kicked out on the couch.

11. Don't treat her like glass.

Many men, myself included, are very protective of their wives. But when your baby grows inside it, this protective instinct suddenly increases several times. For example, I did not allow my wife to open doors, carry grocery bags, lift heavy objects, etc. It's not that I think she can't fend for herself; it's just that I feel like I have to keep her safer than ever during this period, and I want to make sure that heavy lifting is kept to a minimum. And at this moment I just hear the following: “I AM NOT MADE OF GLASS, STOP TREATING ME LIKE A PRINCESS!” Well, husbands/boyfriends of pregnant women, whether you treat them like princesses or not, you'll still be damned.

12. Pregnant women are lazy

This is a rather touchy subject. After all, your woman carries a whole new life within her. Her body grows, stretches, changes and adapts. But the fact remains, pregnant women L-E-N-I-V-S-E. Case in point, I became a stay-at-home dad during my wife's second pregnancy. Not only did she stop cooking, she even stopped putting dirty dishes in the sink. Instead, she brought dishes into the kitchen and placed them away from the sink. Moreover, all cups of coffee remained half full, and plates with a ton of half-eaten cereals. I didn't mind cooking, but I was vehemently opposed to being considered complete shit. Is it really that hard to finish your meal and put the dishes in the sink? But you can't be angry because...

13. You can't complain

All the points I listed above, you can't tell your pregnant wife. Because even if she is lazy, does not give you anything, does not allow you to touch her breasts, forgets everything, sleeps with a bunch of pillows, kicking you out on the sofa, eats a lot and gains excess weight, all this does not matter. After all, she is pregnant. She is carrying your child. This means that she has a trump card in her hands and all your complaints do not matter. Seriously, just think, you complained, and what will be her response. Something like: “Dishes? Are you grumbling about the dishes? I have a human being the size of a watermelon growing in my stomach, which I eventually have to push out through a hole the size of a lemon! SO WHAT ARE YOU DISSATISFIED WITH?!?

In modern life, a large number of married couples cannot stand living together, resulting in a divorce. And this happens, as a rule, due to the lack of tenderness, affectionate phrases. Mutual understanding also disappears over time, everyone tries to defend his point of view, no matter what it costs him. And with time, love fades.

If this situation has affected your family, then in no case should this issue be ignored. After all, as a rule, in this case, there may be treason on the side. And under the circumstances, most couples take the easier path - they decide to divorce. Indeed, it is much harder to save a family. But it is possible, for which it will only be necessary to resolve existing problems and re-ignite a faded passion. Intimate matters are no longer at the forefront of family life, although they are very important for the preservation of the family. Not in vain, after all, performing their own couple thereby shows love towards each other.

Why is this happening?

The situations are completely different. But in most cases, sexual relations are absent due to the wife's fatigue, her headache, which in the end leads to such consequences.

And then the question arises: The reasons can be completely different. And each case must be considered individually. For example, a wife gets tired at work, solves all domestic issues at home, and in the evening she only dreams of rest and a good sleep. In this case, trouble can be helped by partially sharing household chores so that both have the strength and desire to have sex.

Resentment

In addition to fatigue, a very common reason for absence is resentment. After all, a woman by nature is very vulnerable. And sometimes even a phrase thrown at the wrong place becomes to blame for everything. In this case, the wife, refusing to have sex with her husband, tries to take revenge. But this approach is absolutely wrong. In order for harmony to always reign in the family, it is not necessary to combine with everyday issues. In any case, this is not a solution to the problem, but a heating of the atmosphere. And in the situation that has arisen, it is necessary to identify and eliminate those problems because of which the wife does not want a husband.

The psychologist explains the reasons as follows: even if there was a quarrel between the spouses, they should still sleep together. Otherwise, gradually there is a distance and as a result, the cooling of feelings. A husband is categorically not recommended to humiliate and insult his wife, to vent his negative emotions on her. Otherwise, this same offense will arise.

Spouse not satisfied

There are situations when a spouse does not satisfy his chosen one during sex, so over time the wife does not want a husband. The reasons for this may be the following. Very often, women are silent about their secret desires. Accordingly, they do not receive satisfaction and subsequently completely refuse intimate relationships. Moreover, they are offended by their husband that he did not guess in time about the fantasies of his wife.

In order for partners to get satisfaction from sex, one must not be silent, but, on the contrary, talk and find out why this happens in life, why the wife does not want a husband. Having identified the reasons, everything can be easily corrected. Try to get out of this situation with the best results. It is necessary to pay attention to your wife as much as possible, make compliments, and also invite them on a romantic date, try to treat each other as best as possible. And then, you will see, relations will not only improve, but will also move to a new stage of development. By resolving this issue, it will be possible to get rid of such situations forever when a wife does not want a husband. After all, the reasons may lie in general in very smallness, and it will not be difficult to eliminate them.

Experiment!

According to sexologists, if the health of a married couple is in good condition and there are no contraindications, then, on the contrary, one should not deprive oneself of these happy moments. Intimate life requires variety, so experiment, add something new to love games, and then you will no longer need to deal with these problems. Since sex life is an important component of a happy life in marriage.

Waiting for a baby

Why does a pregnant wife not want a husband? The reasons can be exactly the same as in the cases described above. But some women are afraid of harming their unborn child, because of this they refuse their husband intimacy.

If a beloved man has stopped taking care of himself, walks unshaven for weeks, this can also negatively affect sexual relationships. Men who do not want to provide for their family financially may find themselves in a similar situation. most sensitive to everything that happens around. Therefore, it is necessary for a husband to become more gentle, attentive towards his wife, pay attention to all sorts of little things, because life consists of them. The husband's attention can be expressed as follows: an invitation to spend a pleasant time together or purchases of various gifts and souvenirs. And then there will be no question that the wife does not want a husband. The reasons for worrying about this will dissolve by themselves.

Lack of attention

Some men believe that a wife is already property that will not go anywhere, and will always follow these principles. They think that it is no longer necessary to take care of her, to say pleasant words, to confess her love. There is nothing to be surprised that in such situations the pregnant wife does not want a husband. These reasons are quite understandable, but which of the men wants to abandon the ingrained views? Every woman wants as much warmth, love, trust as possible. And all this will be able to give her only and then the wife is unlikely to look for relationships on the side. It is precisely because of the lack of attention from the spouse that women begin to fill this niche by watching love series and romantic pictures.

Conclusion

Therefore, to avoid this issue, always take care of yourself, pay attention to your wife, give gifts on occasion and without! And then the relationship in the family between the spouses will improve much!

The period of pregnancy is filled not only with joyful experiences and events, but also with physiological and psychological changes. Sometimes it's hard for men to understand a pregnant woman, and all because they don't know what it's like!

In each trimester, the expectant mother changes not only externally, but also internally. And these hormonal surges, toxicosis, drowsiness, changes in taste preferences ... Only after experiencing all these “charms” of pregnancy, a man will be able to understand what his beloved has been like for all 9 months. If you want to understand how your pregnant wife feels, then here are a few ways to “stand in her shoes”:

First trimester (1-3 months)

1. Eat expired food in the evening. In the morning, when you start to feel madly sick, you will understand why it was done. And your spouse experiences this feeling all the time!

2. Get up in the morning and drink sleeping pills, and then go to work. Still bad after yesterday's delay? Then stay at home, but don't forget to clean up and make dinner for the whole family.

3. Tie dumbbells (1-2 kg each) to your legs and walk like this all day.

4. We eat only healthy food, do not forget about cottage cheese. What, are you sick of it already? But it is so useful for the future baby. Let's have a spoonful.

5. Put the hamburger back! This is also impossible! This is completely prohibited! There is an apple over there, you better take it.

6. What a soda, forget about it!7. Relax, eat more cottage cheese or yogurt.

8. Feeling sick? Don't forget to wipe up after yourself. And yes, you should not call your wife, she's busy.

9. Do not forget to go to the hospital and take tests.

10. And don't forget to visit a proctologist three times a month!

Second trimester (3-6 months)

1. Now tie a soft container of water to your stomach.

2. And do not untie it when you are going to go somewhere. Now she is with you for a long time. So we dress up. Yes, yes, we reach for the boots through it.

3. Are you going to sleep? Uncomfortable? So lie on your side!

4. Do not forget to drink sleeping pills in the morning.

5. Drink a liter of water before going outside.

6. Drink plenty of water at night and add a diuretic.

7. Try inserting a small piece of cotton wool into your nose so that you can breathe. The main thing is to create the effect of light shortness of breath.

8. Is it difficult to breathe? Ventilate the room.

9. Don't forget to go to the hospital to get tested. Already went in the first trimester? So what! 10. Nobody canceled trips to the proctologist! And a water bottle too!

Third trimester (6-9 months)

1. Early in the morning, sit on a swivel chair and spin quickly. Already sick? Then get up and go to work or business. Difficulty walking and staggering? Nothing, it'll be over soon.

2. Add water to the container (tied to the stomach) and pump it up harder.

3. Drink a diuretic before going to work. And then drink a cup of tea, water or juice every hour.

4. Have to run to the toilet often? The matter is understandable. But it’s not worth leaving the workplace, otherwise the boss will look askance. And yes, you have to work.

5. Yes, we don’t remove dumbbells from our legs, we even need to add weight.

6. Before going to bed, do not untie the water container. And try to be sexy, cheerful, because no one has canceled marital debt!

7. You have strange thoughts that your spouse is staring at other men (calm, figured). Well, try to be lenient.

8. Don't forget about your wife. After all, it’s hard for her too, you completely forgot about her, everything about yourself and yourself. Prepare a delicious dinner, give her time.

9. And yes, go to the hospital again to get tested. How to what? For everything that has already been given.

10. Have you forgotten about the proctologist? We visit 3 times a month! Yes, yes, we do not remove the container and dumbbells. So we go with them.

Of course, it is difficult for most men to understand the whole global physiological and emotional changes that occur with their pregnant spouses. It's all the fault of the peculiarity of "male psychology". But thanks to these ironic tips, future dads realize how hard it is for a pregnant woman. And they will try to surround her with care, affection and attention.