E There are people who are able to quickly make judgments about certain situations, about people and their actions, without understanding what is happening. But sometimes they themselves cannot even analyze their thoughts or actions. This story is about a man who pushed his wife away in order to save himself. Probably, many immediately thought about how bad he is. Do not rush to judge! Read and you will understand that there is nothing unambiguously correct.

One teacher told a story to the children about a cruise ship that was wrecked at sea. More precisely, about one married couple who were on this ship. They managed to get to the lifeboat, but there was only room for one person.

At that moment, the man jumped into the boat himself, and his wife remained on the sinking ship. She shouted something after him, and he was already sailing away.

What do you think she yelled at him?

95% of people will say: “I hate you!”, “How blind I was!” and something like that.

The teacher asked the same question to the students. And only one of them answered differently.

He replied, "Master, I believe she was screaming, Take care of our child!"

Surprised, the teacher asked, "Have you heard this story?"

The boy shook his head and said, "No, but that's what my mother told my father before she died of an illness."

The teacher said: “The answer is correct. The cruise ship sank. The man returned home, raised his daughter alone. And a few years after his death, their daughter found his diary. It turned out that when the parents boarded the cruise ship, the mother had already been diagnosed with an incurable disease. At a critical moment, the father accepted this one chance for survival. He wrote in his diary: "I would like to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter I could not allow it ...".

The students were silent when the teacher finished the story. The moral is simple: do not make hasty decisions about something or someone, because good and evil are not so unambiguous, they can be difficult to recognize.

A 55 year old chef right in the middle of a work shift. The attacker is Dmitry, a visitor from Ukraine, before the murder he worked in a restaurant for only two days on probation. According to the employees of the institution, Dmitry literally begged the management to take him to work: he did not have a dependent wife who was five months pregnant, he needed money.

The deceased did not work at Sport Point: he was a so-called cook for hire. Due to the increased workload due to the World Cup, the restaurant administration invited an employee from another institution - literally for one work shift. On a fateful day for himself, 55-year-old Sergei started work at 8 am and was supposed to be free at 8 pm. But instead, he died.

According to investigators, during the shift, the waiter Dmitry left to talk on the phone with his pregnant wife and was absent for about two hours. All this time, Sergei had to do double work, which, of course, he did not like. When Dmitry returned, the cook reprimanded him. Apparently, this was the cause of the conflict. At the time of the murder, the men were alone: ​​all the other employees of the restaurant were busy with work. As the investigation established, Dmitry literally beat Sergey with serving knives. Bleeding, the cook ran into the hall, then into the hall and fell dead. Eyewitnesses say that Dmitry was not himself, although outwardly he gave the impression of a rather calm person.

The Sport Point restaurant is located on the territory of the Novogorsk Olympic base in Khimki, and after the incident, some media outlets wrote that it was there that the Russian national football team trained. However, the Ministry of Sports of Russia denied this information.

The Ministry of Sports reports that the information disseminated in the media about the commission of a crime on June 24 on the territory of the Novogorsk training center is not true. Moreover, there are no restaurants and other commercial structures on its square, the ministry said in a statement, writes Chempionat.

The Sport Point restaurant is located in the Novogorsk Olympic Village multifunctional complex. This is a completely different object, and the Russian football team has nothing to do with it.

- Well, he promised that we would always be together, and now ... - my friend Asya was offendedly rubbing tears on her cheeks with her fist. The love of her life publicly confessed his love to his ex-girlfriend and returned to her, despite all Ashina's efforts. Why did he do this?

There is an opinion that men and women are people from different planets and will never understand each other, but there is an opinion that in the end we all, regardless of gender, want the same thing. So where is the truth and how to understand why a man did this and not otherwise?

You just wait

Asya met her lover a long time ago, back in her merry student years, when she and her friend traveled all over Russia, taking part in journalism competitions and forums. At one of the forums in the distant city of N, she saw a short snob in a carelessly tied scarf, littering with barbs right and left. When the snob approached Asya, he, of course, also could not resist the impulse and did not joke about her diminutiveness, giving her the name "Thumbelina".

They continued to communicate on the Internet. The great distance between the cities made itself felt: everyone had a relationship, and the correspondence became rather friendly. But during rare meetings on business trips, they were inexorably drawn to each other. Maxim (that was the name of our hero) communicated well with Asya's girlfriend - Tanya, who invited him and her friends to celebrate the New Year at her place. Naturally, Asya was also invited.

It is unlikely that Asya's presence was a surprise for Maxim, but he arrived with his girlfriend Daria. The last fifteen minutes after the start of the celebration was completely forgotten and abandoned - Maxim was flirting with might and main with Asya, who was in seventh heaven with happiness. The next day, Dasha, realizing that there was no need for her presence, silently packed her things and went to the station. For two magical weeks, Maxim and Asya were a real couple in love. The girl did not look for a soul in her beloved. That's just to talk and designate their relationship, no one dared. Soon Maxim went to his hometown. Asa had no face: she did not sleep and did not eat, she languished and worried in anticipation of every contact with her beloved. And the young man then appeared, then disappeared. She went to visit him several times, where Maxim introduced her as his girlfriend to all friends, acquaintances and even her mother. But then, after Asya's visits, he again began the policy of a telephone partisan.

Once Maxim did not get in touch for a month. Based on the entries in his LiveJournal, it was easy to understand that he was not sick and the aliens did not abduct him: he leads an active lifestyle, participates in all events, but for some reason he does not find time for Asya. The girl cried into her pillow at night and went headlong to work. And at one fine moment she firmly decided and told us that she would be faithful only to him, like Conchita from the opera Juno and Avos. She rejected all the courtship of other gentlemen, and one fine day she still waited for his call. The light of her soul announced into the phone that he was going to her, his beloved Asya, and he would also have to speak at the same forum a couple of times, but this is not an end in itself, the main thing is that they will see each other! Upon Maxim's arrival, they constantly made love, he brought her coffee in bed for a week, carefully pushed back his chair in a cafe, had small talk with her friends, held her hand in the movies and kissed her tenderly at every traffic light. Asya was in love and happy. And only we - envious shrews-girlfriends - noticed some kind of catch in personal communication with a couple.

Maxim left, and Asya again could not find a place for herself, missing her beloved. Three days after his departure, she decisively dialed the number - the young man did not pick up the phone. Two days later, she found on the social network on the page of the aforementioned Dasha an inscription made by Maxim: "I love only Dasha!" Asya was sincerely perplexed and, rubbing her tears with her fist, asked us: "Why did he do that?" But everything is only because not only women, but also men are mercantile and prudent. Undoubtedly, Maxim liked Asya as a pleasant conversationalist and passionate lover, she was not unpleasant to him. Therefore, he allowed himself to exchange his affection and warmth for a comfortable stay in a foreign city, courtship, gifts and pleasant leisure. Only now he did not think that the one who looks at you like a puppy dog ​​might be hurt by a slight adultery. And to realize that somewhere in another city a person is waiting for you, ready for anything for you, is very pleasant. And it is unlikely that Asya was the only one on this list.

He doesn't want me!

Once, my overworked brain boiled over not from work at all. A man has come into my life. More precisely, he appeared for the third time.

Once upon a time, nothing in our relationship foreshadowed trouble, but he disappeared without explaining anything. I shed tears, asked everyone what was wrong with me, then - what was wrong with him. Not finding a clear answer, after a while I eventually calmed down. The second time he appeared in my life, or rather, on my phone, with an offer to go to the movies, when I, being on a wonderful date, was sitting on the seashore with a charming young man, enthusiastic and completely forgetting about my mister brain. He received a decisive refusal and again disappeared from my life. After another six months, he called, I answered the phone discouraged:

Hello ... - I mumbled in confusion.
- How much can I call you, at least you could hear one of your phones, - the gentleman scolded me. - Today is the premiere of the film, the same one, remember, they wanted to go back in the summer, get ready, I'll call in an hour.

We went to the cinema, during which I longed to take his hand all the time, then we walked and talked, enlightening each other about the changes in life. The next day we went to his friends, a week later - to relatives. No one asked the question "Why?", I calmed down a little from his courtship and thought: what's the difference, why he returned so suddenly and now practically does not let me out of his arms. The main thing is that now is good. What happens next is no longer important!

On the New Year, which we celebrated together, my gentleman went over with alcohol. I guessed that what he told me then, on a sober head, I would not have pulled out of him even under terrible torture. It turned out that once he had a fight with his girlfriend and decided to have an affair with me on a wedge by wedge basis. But then she returned to him, which is why he disappeared so suddenly. Now she left him again, so he, being in the deepest depression, thought: who better to cope with his unstable psyche than me. That's why he dialed my number.

After the celebration of the New Year, a complete confusion began. He either appeared and did not leave me a single step, offering his friends to take care of gifts for our wedding, then he disappeared, then he returned with flowers and again went underground, in which they do not pick up phones. But what is most interesting: after he opened his soul to me, we completely lost sex. And to all my questions, he answered at length that he was tired at work, or he helped someone with the move, in general, there was always a good reason. This went on for several months, until he got the family status "Dating with ..." on the social network, and in this line there was by no means my last name. But the answer to my question: "What is it?" I was just amazed. My prince scratched his head, then brazenly looked up and said: "What's wrong?"

As soon as a man begins to evade a normal relationship (disappears, does not pick up the phone, avoids intimacy), no matter how he justifies himself, know that another woman is probably involved here. The most common syndrome is the answer "I was busy" to the question "Why didn't you call?". Think, we, too, are not loafers and are not busy just calling the boyfriends we like around the clock, but, despite any amount of work, we will always find a minute to call our beloved and inquire about his mood and well-being. As the saying goes, "when faced with a solution to a problem, we are looking for either opportunities or reasons."

Pity the time

My friend Tanya is a successful economist for a large company. She is beautiful and smart, purposeful and uninhibited, and by her twenty-seven years has already learned to see through men, while maintaining a slight shade of naivety in her behavior. But even an old woman can be a mess, and even Tatyana sometimes turned to us with a sacramental question: "Why did he do that?"

Once Tanya met a wonderful young man Andrei at a corporate party. They talked, joked a lot, and seemed to understand each other perfectly. The corporate party ended with a Sabantuum at the apartment of one of the colleagues, where Tanya and Andrey, having gone out on the balcony to smoke and forgetting about the company, stayed there together for the whole night. And in the morning he invited her on a date. It was time for a date, but Andrey did not call. The reasons turned out to be banal - Andrei reconciled with his girlfriend. They saw Tanya only a few days later. The young man behaved as if nothing had happened, as if there had not been that crazy night on the balcony with confessions, conversations and passionate kisses.

One day Andrei had an accident, and his car had to be taken to the service station. Tanya, as a motorist, knew how hard it was to be left without an iron horse, which is why she offered to give the young man a lift. You can always find a rich bar in Tanya's car, and that day was no exception. Andrei was upset and depressed, and she suggested that he "relieve stress." Having drunk a little, Andrey offered to drive around the city and chat. So Tanya found out that for six months he had been living with his girlfriend like a cat with a dog, that it exhausted him so much that he could neither work nor live normally.

Why are you with her? You don’t feel well with her, she doesn’t understand you, she saws on trifles, she doesn’t give you even a centimeter of free space, so why don’t you leave her? Tanya asked Andrey.
- You know, I once had a girlfriend, - Andrei began his explanation, - we lived with her for a year and a half, and then she, not to mention the reasons, left. I suffered for a long time, could not forget her and understand her behavior, and then I met another.

I was very afraid of losing her and decided to get married. Even sold his favorite sports car to make a good wedding. But we turned out to be from a different test, - Andrei recalled, twirling a half-empty glass in his hands, - there were no common interests, but for some reason I stayed with her. After a year and a half, we divorced. I was worried again for a long time, but then I met my current girlfriend. Again, we have been together for a year and a half, and we have terrible difficulties in relations, in fact, it is difficult to call this a relationship, for example, military operations.

Tan, - Andrei took the girl by the hand, - why do women live with me for a year and a half and leave? Can't you be with me longer? he asked, looking into her eyes faithfully.

Men, like women, have emotional trauma inflicted by previous partners. In this case, a terrible thought crept into the man’s head that no one could live with him for more than a year and a half. He did not even realize that he was simply choosing the wrong women. With this thought, he, firstly, programmed himself for failure after a given period, and secondly, no matter how uncomfortable he was with a woman in a relationship, he remained with her, because he wanted to prove to himself that it was possible to be with him and longer. And until he himself understands this, such a person will not be able to build normal harmonious relations.

Summary

When meeting men, pay attention to the little things: what he says about previous partners, how he behaves with other women, how he speaks about his mother. After all, it has long been known that the essence is made up of little things. And in the end, we all want the same thing - love and understanding, regardless of gender. So you can safely "try on" male behavior and ask questions, in what cases and under what circumstances do you behave in a similar way? And the answers to the riddles of male behavior will be found instantly.

Text: Julia Dorosh

Hello. My name is Anastasia. I have a strange situation. Well, I’ll tell you in order, we met a guy, started dating, everything was fine, well, in other ways, it’s always like this at the beginning of a relationship. But then he didn’t like something and he decided to leave, I was killing myself, crying, trying to talk to him, but he didn’t want to. Then for some reason he decided to come back to me, I accepted, but after a while he again wanted to leave, he said that he hadn’t walked up yet ... Well, I was again in tears, but I didn’t get him. Then it so happened that we began to communicate in social .VKontakte networks. He wrote that he had a lot of girls (which, as it turned out later, was not true), so I somehow got together to visit a friend (and of course I really wanted to see him) (a friend lives with him in the same village)), she told him, and his reaction shocked me, offered to meet, meet me, etc.) then he called me that day to arrange a meeting) well, we met and walked with him. then he wrote on VK for a long time so that he would come more often and that he wanted to measure himself. I didn’t mind, but then he started having problems, and we stopped talking for a while. in the summer, he called me with his parents to the sea, said not to think for a long time, and then disappeared. later he appeared and wrote that he had a girlfriend ... I wished him happiness and that's it, I didn't write a word to him anymore. He periodically wrote himself, asking how I was doing. And then at one fine moment he writes to me and asks about the guy (do I have a boyfriend, I write to him no. A few days later he writes again: hello. tell me honestly do you have a boyfriend? I write him a question: why are you like this he’s interested, and he writes: just say yes or no. I wrote that no. he writes: you have a boyfriend, I found out everything about you. you are happy with us now, well, well. I again wrote that I don’t have a boyfriend .) (I just wrote in VK in the status: happy, and set the cn: in love). then his girlfriend writes to me, says that I should not get into their family and that he thinks badly of me, I got him, and that I behave like a girl of easy virtue, and that she knows about correspondence. Tells him someone said that I have a boyfriend and he decided to find out for sure. and if I had a boyfriend, he would be glad that I wouldn’t beat him up. I was in shock ... I wrote to my mother that they live together and that the wedding is coming soon. well, I listened and that’s it ... I didn’t touch them, suffered silently, then ate to build relationships with other guys, but without results, I literally felt sick from them, I came angry from meetings, tried to escape from them, etc. . . I eventually stopped trying. and just recently, about a month ago, he writes to me like he wants me back, he thought about me, he loves that he won’t offend anymore, he won’t leave. well, I agreed. everything started great, he wrote me that he loves, called me, missed me, said that people like me don’t leave. and now I find out the reason for parting with his ex: she became pregnant, and ruffled his nerves, demanded to buy something, and if you say no to her, then in tears, she made scenes for various reasons. and in the end he couldn't resist. as he found out, she was married, lived with her husband for 3 days and kicked him out, and she had a lot of boyfriends, found out that she smokes, although she hid it from him. then she constantly wrote obscenities to his mother, saying that he was a creature and a bastard, mothered me, wished me death and that I would burn in hell, that I was a creature. he told me all the time that her pregnancy was superfluous, that he didn’t want to return to her ... at that time he offered me to come to him, introduced him to his parents, met mine, gave me a ring, told me to move in with them after school . that everything will be fine with us, and that I will still sing at our wedding. I spent the weekend with him, he took care of me, made tea, forced me to eat so that my back was kept straight, we watched films together. and everything was fine. and then this ex appears and says the type does not want to raise the child herself and that she takes her words back. his mood has changed dramatically, and he does not know what to do. I asked: do you want to return to her? he writes no. I ask you love her: he writes where love is, I just did stupid things and I will decide them myself. asked to give him time the next day, he deleted me from friends and wrote that for a while, I noticed that his friends did not decrease and that he added the former. I ask him: did you decide to return to her? he writes: I'm sorry, yes, I can't live with a stone in my soul. I ask: do you love her? he: what does this have to do with it, my child and I don’t need a dash of paternity. and then he writes like I realized that the seed should be whole. and then the phrase killed me: thank you for helping to relieve stress. Now he has restricted my access to VK. but I don’t understand why everything has changed so dramatically (I was already told that they supposedly bewitched him), I love him and worry about what is happening to him. I'll be glad if he's happy. but I don't understand why this happened. if he wanted to relieve stress, then why me? he has many friends on VK (I was not in them then and he deleted my number). could choose any. Why was all this (acquaintance with parents, care, ring, plans for the future)? Is it really all a game? (A friend tells me that she’s supposedly manipulating him. When she started dating him, she found out that I once met him, found out my home address, where my parents work and generally showed great interest in me.). help me figure it out