"Our parents in Baku and Yerevan will never give their blessing."

The editorial mail of the website Armenia.Az received another letter from a reader who introduced himself as Anarom.

Oxu.Az presents the material of the above site regarding the received letter:

We thought for a long time whether to publish this letter or not - too frank, intimate, but at the same time, it seemed full of pain and despair even to us, worldly-wise journalists. However, in the end, we still made a difficult, but, in our opinion, the right decision. Although, we are more than sure that the story told by Anar will not appeal to many - both in Azerbaijan and in Armenia:

“Hello, dear journalists. I learned about the existence of a site in Armenian in Azerbaijan quite recently. I learned from my beloved girl - Rita. You will probably be extremely surprised to learn that she is Armenian by nationality. Yes, yes, you heard right, my beloved Rita is an Armenian. And I am a purebred Azerbaijani. My ancestors come from the Krasnoselsky region of Armenia. True, they moved to Baku back in the early 80s, when posters about the friendship of peoples hung on every street in the USSR.

Tell us about yourself. I am 21 years old, I am a 4th year student of one of the Moscow technical universities. I don't see much point in naming it. Not because I'm afraid of something, but simply because I don't see the point. I have always considered myself a patriot of my country and could not imagine life outside of Azerbaijan. However, it so happened that I could not enter the Technical University in Baku, and when I was offered to submit documents to a Moscow university, after a long family council, I agreed. To my surprise, I passed the exams at this university without much difficulty and was enrolled in the first year. By the way, I was the only Azerbaijani in our stream. True, three Azerbaijanis studied there in the 4th year, but we almost never met, as we studied in different buildings, I lived in a student hostel, and they lived with their relatives in Moscow. But it's not that. And the fact that already in the first week I had a conflict with my fellow Armenian students.

When they found out that I was from Azerbaijan, they began to deliberately provoke me into a conflict. I tried my best, but one day I could not stand it, and with a classic uppercut I sent one of the offenders into a deep knockout - my boxing lessons in my native Baku came in handy.

It would seem that this conflict could be settled. But after classes in the courtyard of the university, a dozen Armenians were already waiting for me - my classmates decided to call their relatives from the senior courses. What to do in such a situation? Run? But it would be a shame for me personally. To take the fight, knowing in advance that with so many people I can not cope? The answer was prompted by the Armenians themselves, who, taking me in a circle, began to strike with their hands and feet. I resisted, defended myself, knocked out more than one tooth of my offenders, but the forces were unequal. They threw me on the floor and started beating me. I don’t remember how long the beating lasted, because I lost consciousness for a while. I woke up from the fact that someone was wiping my face with a damp cloth. Opening my eyes, I saw Rita, my classmate, bending over me. I knew that she was Armenian, and we hardly spoke during our studies. After all, even before my trip to Moscow, I promised myself not to communicate with the Armenians - with the enemies of my state and my people.

It turned out that she saw a crowd of her relatives beating me, and tried to intercede. Can you imagine - an Armenian woman wanted to stand up for an Azerbaijani. But the bastards who beat me did not even listen to her. Rita waited for the villains to leave, and began to bring me to my senses.

You can probably guess that Rita and I became friends. It turned out that she was from Yerevan, and that her uncle fought in Karabakh against my country. He never returned from that war. Therefore, Rita hates war and dreams of peace reigning between Azerbaijanis and Armenians. But in her heart she understands that this is impossible as long as the lands of Azerbaijan are under occupation. She turned out to be such a pure and innocent soul that she did not even try to argue with me when, in the heat of the moment, I began to scold the Armenian people for what they had done to my people in Khojaly. At the same time, she expressed categorical disagreement with the fascist thesis of the ex-president of Armenia Robert Kocharyan that Armenians and Azerbaijanis will not be able to live together, since they are ethnically incompatible.

But one incident changed everything. When I once again began to scold the Armenians and say that if a war starts, then with a weapon in my hands I will go to defend my native land, Rita suddenly covered her face with her hands and began to cry. "I understand exactly what u mean. You love your country and are ready to go to war with my people. But I already lost my uncle in that war, and now I don’t want to lose you, ”Rita said sobbing. And only then it dawned on me - the girl is in love with me. And I didn't notice it. But the worst thing for me was that I fell in love with Rita. This confession to myself had an effect on me like an icy shower - how can I love an Armenian? After all, we are enemies. Nothing like this can happen between us. That evening I didn't say anything to Rita.

After that, I began to avoid Rita. She tried to talk to me, but I answered her rudely and with all my appearance made it clear that I was not interested in her either as a girl, or as a friend, or as a classmate. I saw how our Armenian classmates looked at her, how they incinerated her with their eyes when she came up to me and tried to speak. I know they even scolded her for being "too warm" towards me. But she was not afraid of anyone or anything, and she ignored all their instructions.

So a month passed. We already had to prepare for the summer session, when suddenly Rita stopped coming to class. But it was a very important time - the session was on the nose. For a couple of days I was still strong, but then I could not stand it and went up to an Armenian classmate to find out what was happening with Rita. He reluctantly grunted that Rita was sick. “She had an attack, and her aunt won't let her go to class yet,” he said through gritted teeth. I knew that Rita had asthma since childhood, but she hadn't had any attacks lately. And then it was like I was changed. For the first time I broke from classes and, having caught a taxi, rushed to her. On the way, I bought her a sumptuous bouquet of red roses. Literally taking off to the third floor, I pressed the bell. Pressed and did not let go. The door was opened by a disgruntled Aunt Rita. She knew me by sight and guessed that her niece was in love with me. Stepping aside, she let me through, pointing to the room where Rita was. When I saw her, pale, lying on the bed, I knew that I would never leave her again.

Since that time we have been together. She moved out from her aunt. With scandal. Although her relative was not against our relationship, nevertheless, she wanted us to observe customs and decorum. But will the young listen to the instructions of the elders?! We rented a room - there was not enough money for an apartment. That summer, I never went to Baku. I lied to my parents that I found a seasonal job in my specialty (although it was so), so I won’t be able to come. Rita told her parents in Yerevan the same thing. Fortunately, her aunt, reluctantly, did not betray her niece. Since then, I have only been to Baku once - for Novruz Bayram last year. And Rita visited Yerevan for the wedding of her elder sister.

We do not have tea in each other. But somewhere, in the depths, we are afraid. We are afraid that a war will start between our countries. And Rita knows that I will go to fight for my Motherland. We understand that neither she will be able to visit Azerbaijan, in my father's house, nor I will be able to visit Yerevan. We are afraid to tell our parents about our relationship. After all, we are well aware that they will be categorically against such an alliance. They will never give their blessing. Maybe when we have children, the strict hearts of our parents will melt and they will forgive us. But for now, we're not counting on it. But the most important thing for us is that we love and respect each other. Yes, it is not easy for us, yes, it is difficult, yes, sometimes it hurts. But after all, love, in principle, cannot have borders and nations, so we believe in the best.”

Someone manages to attract the attention of an Armenian easily and naturally, while someone, despite all efforts and attempts, is defeated. So, let's try to answer the question: how to win the love of an Armenian man?

What is an Armenian man?

Character of an Armenian man

First you need to find out what exactly do we know about Armenian men?

The image of a fatal handsome man with an ardent temperament and a reverent attitude towards a woman has firmly settled in our thoughts. In fact, Armenian men do not stand out much among men of other nationalities. Armenians are distinguished by a sharp change of mood, jealousy, unconditional charisma, loyalty to traditions, reverence for family ties, hard work. These are the main characteristics obtained from women living or communicating with men of this nationality. Armenians living in the cities of Russia are more socialized than their compatriots living in their homeland. But, it must be remembered that each person is an individual and people of Armenian nationality are no exception.

How to attract the attention of an Armenian man?

Before figuring out how to win the love of an Armenian man, you need to clarify how you can draw his attention to your person. There are no known facts that Armenian men prefer a certain type of women. Therefore, it does not make sense to repaint from blonde to brunette, lose weight or get better. An Armenian can be attracted to a woman by mystery, or by the presence of a zest, which seems to be visible, but not solved. By doing this, you can intrigue him and arouse interest in yourself. If your meeting is casual and you would like to start a relationship with this person, in no case be imposed on him, try to gently push him into action and then very reluctantly give in to his request. Behave as impregnably as possible, this will push him to further actions, because Armenian men are essentially conquerors. Mysteriousness, impregnability and a well-groomed appearance are your main weapons at the first stage towards the goal.

How to win the love of an Armenian?

How to fall in love with an Armenian

So, now you need to consolidate the result and move to a new stage of relations with the object of your dreams. You have to try to bind him. Learn to cook his favorite dishes and learn the Armenian language, it will flatter him and it will be much easier for you to communicate with his family when you get to know relatives and friends. And such an acquaintance will definitely take place. And in order for your relationship to become as strong and durable as possible, you need to please the parents of your Armenian man. It is the opinion of his family that will play a decisive role in your relationship. Whatever affection a young man feels for you, he will be able to break off relations with you if the family decides so.

If you are counting on a long-term relationship with your partner, then he will certainly be proud if you know his roots and understand all the "branches" of his huge family.

You will need to show your partner that it is he who plays the main role in your relationship, but do not let him deprive you of your own opinion. This will cause him respect for you, and he will be proud that an independent girl recognizes him as the head of the relationship.

Do not test his feelings with jealousy. Armenians, as a rule, are very jealous and you can expect a scandal at best, a complete break in relations at worst.

Learn to respect your Armenian boyfriend. Show him your mind, understanding and admiration. An Armenian man will be proud that he has such a smart and understanding girlfriend. And most importantly ... If your relationship has grown into a serious one and you have achieved your initial goal, express your love for him. After all, every person needs to be loved.

And in the end...

You have put a lot of effort into getting the love of an Armenian man. And what will you get in return? Armenian men, as a rule, are well-educated, it is interesting to communicate with them, they look after them beautifully and show care. If you are planning to start a family with him, then according to statistics, Armenians are good husbands, caring fathers who put family in the first place. They respect their wife and her opinion.

To the question of why Armenian men prefer Russian girls.
Armenians are very fond of the Russian language. I even have one admirer who seems to hang out with me just to practice speaking Russian. Well, God be with him!)
Armenians love the Russian language so much that they first of all speak Russian with any tourist, even from Guatemala. Such a bizarre instinct works - if not in Armenian, then in Russian. But more than anything, Armenians (we are talking about men) love women. Sorry, Russian women and girls.
Who doesn't love, you ask? But Armenians - any Russian girl who has visited Armenia will tell you - love them in a special way. Here you have temperament, hospitality, Caucasian character, and the ability to appreciate beauty. Turns out,
back in Soviet times, Armenia was considered the center of the sex industry in the USSR. But that was a long time ago, so what if it's true?)
Since then, a lot of water has flowed under the bridge, a lot of new things have been built in the country, society has begun to develop, or rather “move” along the lines of liberal-democratic standards. In short, everything is according to the plan of Heraclitus "Everything flows, everything changes." Only the love of Armenian men for Russian girls remained unchanged. This is how the hot Armenian macho explains this paradox. Reading and thinking:
Taaaaaaaaa..
Why do we like Russian girls?
1. Because they know how to take care of themselves.
2. Shave in all places every day
3. They smell good
4. They have a beautiful ass
5. They have long legs
6. They are mostly blondes
7. You don't make any effort to get them into bed.
8. They also like people of Caucasian nationality (he said)
9. They are good in bed
10. They have no complexes

The whole tragicomic nature of this “sublime” love and irrepressible passion lies in the fact that Armenians are attracted to Slav women, but few people dare to marry a Slav. Here it is necessary to say a few words about Armenian girls too, because everything is known in comparison. Ithax: Armenian girls are a very special kind of girls (as well as Armenian guys). The girls here are mostly modest, well-mannered and quiet. It often happens that you spend many hours in companies where there are a lot of girls, but you never hear a single word from them. Some men like it very much. (God forgive them). With all this, you can meet a completely different type of girl: European views, open, cheerful, sociable, incendiary ... at club parties. In order to find just such, it is not necessary to strain much. Just go to the nearest club.
It is clear that accessibility is inherent in both some Armenian women and Russians ... And there is hardly a people where they are not easily accessible. And the dogma, which some Armenian men and women like to trumpet at the top of their voices, about the superiority of Armenian women over everyone and in particular over Russian women, is complete nonsense and I would say the result of low mental development.
Judge for yourself, because we constantly hear the same thing - Armenian women adhere to traditions, know how to behave (?), good housewives, etc. and so on..
You might think that the Russians do not have any traditions and customs, they behave like pigs and the house is an eternal mess. And then, if we are talking about traditions, then what exactly are we talking about? As far as I understand, the word tradition is used in the mouths of many precisely as a symbol of innocence before marriage, and this is the whole point of the fictitious paradigm about Armenian traditions. And before marriage, exclusively platonic love is, of course, good, but depending on when the girl gets married. What if no one wants to get married? After all, you marry someone without knowing about one of the most important things (admit it) in a relationship between a man and a woman, and you hope that everything will be fine in the future. What if the guy is unlucky? And in response, silence ... ..
And the fact that today for many Armenian men the female ideal is much more attractive not in the form of housewives with an apron in the kitchen, but in the form of a modern, smart and interesting woman, and that there are very few of them among Armenian women, this is not mentioned. However, I have already said!
Armenians, do not forget that many Armenian women stay at home (sometimes in the truest sense of the word), because 30% of all Armenians who leave to work in Russia marry a Russian, and only 5% of Armenian women marry Russians. No gag - naked statistics. So there is a reason to support the "domestic manufacturer")))))
Please, to all Armenian men who read this post, do not forget that there are a lot of beautiful Armenian women who are waiting for you))))
p.s. Do not judge strictly my cynicism.

Hot Armenian guy won your heart from the very first sight? Yes, Slavic women are often dizzy with the temperamental sons of the Caucasus with their “wah-what” accent and the ability to look after them extraordinarily beautifully.

The only question is how to attract his attention and win his heart.

There are several strategic moments that will make it possible to fall in love with an Armenian man. Just be careful. What if he wants to steal you and take you to his home in the Caucasus?

If you're ready, let's go!

A man - he is a man in the Caucasus

At first glance, the Armenians are more temperamental, passionate and cheerful than the men of the “domestic manufacturer”. It seems that they are ready to drink wine for days, while pushing long toasts and dancing at the sounds of lezginka.

But, be sure, any man permanently wants home warmth, comfort and tranquility in the first place. And a woman for whom he will always be the most courageous, strong and reliable.

An Armenian, like everyone else, falls in love not with the woman herself, but with his state next to her.

Therefore, in a relationship with a man, it is important to ensure the latter first. Show that it is better than with you, he will not be with anyone.

Thank him for the gifts (and Eastern men are very generous), admire his deeds, compliment him, be gentle and understanding.

I'm telling you, he won't resist. And he wants to be with you for the rest of his life.

Don't play with fire

It is believed that one of the ways to win a man's heart is to flirt with jealousy. As soon as he sees that someone else is taking his woman away, he will immediately ignite with passionate love and will win back. So, this is complete nonsense!

Most likely, he will think that you are a windy and unworthy traitor, and your favorite is an insolent who dared to hurt his pride. So he decides to figure it out...

At best, the case will end in a massacre, at worst, in a stabbing. But be that as it may, you will fall in his eyes and lose the chance to fall in love with him.

Don't turn on the feminist

While charming, do not forget about the characteristic highlights of any Caucasian man. He is impulsive and dependent on the opinions of his family and traditions.

In addition, he is always a leader and will want to dominate in relationships. Never let a woman pay on a date, so keep your wallet and your impulses to yourself.

And do not try to intercept the restaurant bill, because "you are not like that and for equality." For an Armenian, this is tantamount to an insult.

Interestingly, with all these advantages, such a woman often cannot arrange her personal life. Or he finds someone who doesn’t mind sitting on her neck and occasionally washing dishes.

In the East, things are different. Armenian wives are charismatic, capricious, but at the same time they recognize the supremacy of a man in the family. They too have the right to work and wear trousers. But they always take into account his opinion.

It is noteworthy that marriages in the East are stronger and more durable.

If you want an Armenian man, be gentle. Show that you respect him. Do not start arguments, do not prove - be a woman.

If you do not agree with him, connect the female cunning - support him in his conviction, but then gently push him to the right decision. And this, by the way, is not manipulation - this is elementary female wisdom.

Don't go against the family!

Another feature of any Caucasian man is devotion to the family. They always listen to the opinion of their father and mother and almost never go against their will.

Especially when it comes to It is not uncommon for an Armenian who is in love with a Slavic girl to leave her just because her mother or grandmother did not like her.

Trying to win the heart of a Caucasian man, never speak badly about his family. Do your best to please them. Otherwise - no chance, no options.

Moreover, most likely, his parents are people of the "old school". Therefore, they are unlikely to be delighted with your new mini or translucent blouse. And watch your communication style.

Be modest, at least in their presence, try and, of course, avoid obscene language.

You will be treated: food, wine - eat, drink and give thanks. But do not lean too heavily on alcohol, although this is not easy to do among Caucasians. And then the right strategy will quickly disappear from your head.

At some point, you will realize that you are complaining about the fifth to his mother and flirting with a hundred-year-old grandfather.

When you meet your mother, watch her. Men, and especially Caucasians, often idealize their mother. If he sees in you at least some resemblance to her, he will become attached even more.

Fix effect

It really doesn't matter at all. Everyone wants to see specific qualities and manifestations in a woman.

An Armenian, like any other representative of the stronger sex, falls in love with a woman with whom he feels good and calm, with whom he feels like a real man.

Act according to the plan, and very soon he will not be able to live without you. If I missed something, tell me in the comments what you caught the Armenian man yourself.

Good luck,
Ksenia Litvinova, FazaRosta psychologist.