Men almost always come back. Sometimes earlier, sometimes later. Sometimes just to briefly remember the past in which they were happy, and sometimes, to repent of their betrayal, to start all over again. How long does it take for husbands to return to their families? The standard period is from one year to one and a half years.

On two chairs

Men often behave extremely strangely after a breakup. Ideally, they tactfully leave the once beloved woman, allowing her to calmly experience the pain of separation and the opportunity to gain strength in order to start all over again. But only a few are ready to completely cut themselves out of their wife’s life.

Most men seem to be trying to sit on two chairs. Having received a breath of long-awaited fresh air, they begin to do everything possible to again attract the attention of the one they betrayed. They can call, look for reasons for meetings, offer their help in appropriate or inappropriate ways.

Even if a man has left for a new beloved, after a certain time his euphoria wears off and he begins to compare her with his ex. This is how representatives of the stronger sex work - they look for a place where they are “warmer”.

Only a few are ready to completely cut themselves out of their wife’s life.

Comparing a new passion with his ex-wife leads a man to complete confusion and evokes feelings of nostalgia for everything that was once dear, especially if he has more than ten years of marriage behind him. He begins to blame himself for paying little attention to his children, for neglecting his relatives, for his actions being disapproved of by his old, loyal friends. Or he realizes that he underestimated the strength of his feelings for his ex-wife.

In general, after about a year of his “free” life, the hero-lover feels like a hostage to his new situation. Almost all men are overwhelmed by these conflicting feelings. Psychologists call this condition “seventeenth month syndrome.” From a year to a year and a half becomes a critical period in their perception of themselves - this is approximately how long men return after breaking up.

Dreams and reality

Men who decide to separate believe that they can do just fine without a family. After all, it limits him so much and imposes family obligations: moral and material. He doesn’t belong to himself, but he really wants to be a cool macho man from Hollywood films, easily moving through life and seducing women left and right.

After about a year of his “free” life, the hero-lover feels like a hostage to his new situation.

A man who has received freedom goes through three stages (they take approximately a period of one to one and a half years).

Stage one - pleasure

A man, no matter what age he is, feels like a male, full of strength and energy. He is ready for sexual exploits, can change his job to a more prestigious one, buy an expensive car. He revels in freedom. Diligently demonstrates all the attributes of his success. He is often under the rule of stereotypes or realizes some of his ideas (perhaps from childhood) about what a successful man should be. This is a very superficial stage in his life, without analysis and soul-searching. But it doesn't last as long as he would like.

Stage two - satiety

All such pleasures unexpectedly turn out to be energy-consuming activities for a man. Both the strength and desire to show off disappear after about six months. He's just starting to get tired. After all, often all the actions that he performs bring extremely superficial results.

Yes, he surrounded himself with young beauties, but they demand to pay for their every breath. Prestigious work takes up more and more personal time, not even leaving the opportunity for proper sleep. The man begins to miss the warmth, selfless care and mutual understanding, that is, the family hearth from which he so arrogantly ran away.

Stage three - repentance

At the third stage of his freedom, a man begins to analyze his actions, and finally realizes that he has lost everything that is most important to him. He sincerely repents. He often wants to return to his family, at least to try to start all over again after everything he has done. He makes his first timid attempt to establish contact with his wife and takes a wait-and-see attitude. He is in no hurry to confess. He needs some more time to admit his mistake and mentally prepare for reconciliation.

At the third stage of his freedom, a man begins to analyze his actions, and finally realizes that he has lost everything that is most important to him.

According to statistics, every third man, having gone through these three stages, makes an attempt to return to his family. His further future will depend on his wife. Will she be able to accept and forgive her prodigal husband or will she still prefer to go through life without him. Or perhaps, over the past year and a half, she has already met her new love (yes, this happens and is not uncommon).

Men thinking about divorce should remember that family happiness is very fragile, it can be broken in an instant, but to rebuild and regain the lost trust of your chosen one, it may take years of painstaking work.

What we have, we don’t keep; when we lose it, we cry.” In the male community, returning to a wife is often secretly frowned upon; it is considered a sign of weakness, which is why many men never dare to return, although they suffer from depression and longing for their family. Pavlov's Dog Do we often think about how important the established order of things is for us? Men quickly get used to the way of life established in the family. Next to his wife, it is easier and clearer for him, he knows what will lead to praise and what can lead to conflict. The wife becomes a “life friend” about whom the husband knows almost everything (and who knows him just as well).

Men always come back

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• 01/04/2010, 22:20 #2 Call, It depends on the circumstances, in fact, if it’s just a silent disappearance, maybe it won’t appear at all. But if it seriously depends on how they melted away and the reasons, God died (c) NietzscheNietzsche died (c) God of God (c) Death Reply with quotation Up ▲
• 01/05/2010, 00:41 #3 Message from Call Interested in the experience of others. How long after a quarrel / leaving / talking about breaking up / just silently disappearing did men try to get in touch and renew the relationship? From 2 hours to 2 months or never.

Do ex-husbands return to their wives after divorce?

Are you ready to spend the best years of your life with a man who sees you not as the woman he loves, but as a housekeeper, sponsor or relative of an important boss? If you are firm in your decision to get back together with your ex, then you should take several steps:

1. Respect yourself. Do not humiliate yourself in front of your husband, do not cry or beg.
2. Change, at least a little.

Get a new haircut, sign up for a fitness class, treat yourself. Show your husband that you are a beautiful woman who attracts attention and who you want to be with.

Take your time.

Give your husband time to think. Talk to him politely, friendly, ask how things are going, offer help (but everything in moderation).

Don't blame yourself for what happened.

Why do men come back?

He is ready to try to start over, but he is not sure whether his ex-wife will want this. He takes a wait-and-see attitude. He needs time to prepare for a responsible conversation with his wife. If a man has left for another woman, then over time he begins to compare his wife and his mistress.
He develops a feeling of confusion and nostalgia, especially if he has been married for several decades. A man comes to understand how much he loves his wife and children.

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He finds it unpleasant to hear his relatives and friends talk about his ridiculous act. 3 When does the spouse decide to return? After a year and a half, the man becomes a hostage to his new position. In family psychology, this period is usually called the “seventeenth month syndrome.”

This stage is characterized by the appearance of sexual disorders, depression, and decreased interest in life.

How long does it take for ex-husbands to start trying to get their family back?

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• 01/05/2010, 14:45 #15 And they returned to me, and I returned. There was always a painful feeling that they left too early, that they didn’t love me.

  And then I realized that if you were once loved, then it is impossible to love to the end. At least this is the case with me - not a single marriage, not a single story ends due to indifference or anger, or some other nasty thing.
  The hunger for each other, unfortunately, remains forever, and is acute, and can catch up in years. In general, these returns are a dangerous and very sad topic.
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• 01/05/2010, 14:53 #16 Ptashkano, as I understand it, your situation is different? not you him, but he you? It’s somehow not clear to me who is who and why.

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• 01/05/2010, 05:59 pm #24 Message from Sharon Stone As experience shows, they return precisely when they become “former.” That is, when they have not given up. That is, at all. And in absolute time units, this can be and in an hour, and through life. PPKS….Unfortunately, many friends have started getting divorced lately, but the trend is obvious.

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• 01/05/2010, 20:06 #25 Message from Stripes The hunger for each other, unfortunately, remains forever, and acute, and it can catch up with PPKS in years, and it’s the same for me. There are 2 people - very close, and I still love both of them (secretly). But this is about those with whom there were truly strong feelings.

When do husbands return? how long do you need to wait?

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• 01/05/2010, 00:48 #4 After any, and after a year it happened. Reply with quotation Up ▲
• 01/05/2010, 00:51 #5 Ex-husband.
  In two years. When I found out that I was having an affair. Well, just think, well, he died, he wouldn’t have died from such and such a life... (c) Reply with quotation Up ▲
• 01/05/2010, 01:59 #6 after 11 years…… Reply with quotation Up ▲
• 01/05/2010, 03:01 #7 it usually depends on how quickly a man manages to find a new sexual partner, of course it also depends on whose initiative they broke up... in my relationships I am usually the initiator of breakups and the statistics are as follows - they begin to return in about a month .
  But I understand your situation is different? not you him, but he you? Then oh. may not come back at all...

Do husbands return to their ex-wives after divorce?

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It becomes almost impossible to maintain peace and harmonious relations between spouses in such an environment.2 Behavior of a married couple after a divorce Women experience a breakup much more difficult, especially in a situation where there are children and if financial problems arise. They worry about whether they will be able to put the child on his feet and provide himself and him with everything he needs.

Even if a woman herself kicked out her husband and is angry with him, she hopes that her husband will return, ask for an apology and everything will work out. But, unfortunately, this does not happen. However, after some time, a woman begins to take care of her own appearance, visits a beauty salon and a gym, updates her wardrobe, changes her hairstyle and makeup, and makes new acquaintances. She feels quite happy without her husband.

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How often, looking back, we note that a personal tragedy followed one of those scenarios that, years later, even seem hackneyed to us. One of them is as old as time: men return to their exes.
He left, and in an instant a wave of resentment made him hateful. Then, for some reason, I remembered only good things, but vague flashes of desire for revenge flared up in my soul. Later, the hatred passed, but pain and longing for the beloved remained. The bad has disappeared from your memory, and it seems to you that such wonderful moments as with him will never happen again.

You start to blame yourself and continue to wait for him, maybe because you’re just used to waiting. The men who come into your life do not pass the test of being “like him.”

And you do not allow happiness into your life, perhaps quite consciously. Maybe you are making attempts to get him back, but they have not yet been successful.
In the first months after a divorce, regardless of who initiated the divorce, the ex-husband enjoys his freedom. The psychology of men is such that at this time almost no one returns back to the family.

They find many positive aspects in breaking up with their ex-wife. Nobody asks about your salary, you can meet and drink beer with friends as much as you like, meet new girls.

If a husband left his wife for his mistress, then he enjoys the relationship with her and believes that he did absolutely the right thing. But sometimes, having received the long-awaited freedom, a man begins to bother his ex-wife with endless calls, reproaches, and plays on her feelings. Some people try to offer their help when the woman does not ask for it, they try to find a reason for meetings. The ex-husband seems to be trying to sit on two chairs at the same time.

Statistics on how long it takes for men to return

In these cases, men often choose a drastic solution - divorce. However, if the marriage is married, then divorce is virtually impossible for a believing man, only in the event of his wife’s betrayal. According to psychologists, a man experiences divorce more easily than a woman. They have virtually no “post-divorce syndrome,” when separation from their wife is acutely experienced. However, the much-desired new life that men who decide to get a divorce strive for often disappoints their expectations. Sometimes after a divorce, not even six months have passed before the ex-husband begins trying to return to his wife. Sometimes people leave for ex-wives from new families: there all the difficult stages of family life need to be gone through again, whereas in the old family much has been settled long ago and each other’s habits have been studied. Only after leaving their family and returning to a single life do many men realize how much they loved their wife and children.

Quite often you can hear that life consists of a series of disappointments and losses, losses and partings. Is it really? But then what about the popular wisdom that everything that the Lord gives will certainly turn out for the better? And can we consider that a man leaving is some kind of positive in life? And anyway, why do men leave?

And why do they leave not only ugly and stupid women, but also women who are actually smart, beautiful, wonderful lovers, and amazing housewives? Is it really just to come back later? And one more interesting question: will all men who left their family or previous relationships really come back?

Some statistics

Statistics show that the breakdown of relationships, and especially the breakdown of a family, entails the most serious consequences that pose a threat to health and even life.

For example, breakup and divorce often lead not only to depression, but also to suicide attempts. It is interesting that if previously it was mainly the fairer sex who complained about a depressed state, then in the last one and a half to two decades there has been an increase in appeals to psychologists and psychotherapists by men who are also having a hard time with a breakup, even in cases where they themselves were the initiator of the breakup.

The statistics are inexorable: most men, even leaving their family (it doesn’t matter whether it’s a civil or official marriage), will begin to build a new family in the next five years. Please note: they will not look for temporary connections, but will try to build long-term relationships. And today there are about 65% of such men, and this figure is constantly growing. It is very interesting that most men quite sincerely believe that the “ex” was still better than any next woman who appears in life.

However, the remaining 35% are not those who never again tie the knot in new relationships, including marriage: approximately 25% of men get married more than five years after the breakup of their previous family, and only a few try to create new serious relationships through two decades (or even more) after the first breakup.

Unfortunately, according to statistics, men who cannot decide on their attachments spend the best years of their lives alone (without a family).

It's no secret that sometimes men who left their family try to return to their old life, to their old family, to their old wife, offering to start all over again and try again. Why is this happening? And how often does this happen?

The truth about whether “ex” men always come back

All-knowing sociology claims that not all men make an attempt to return to their former girlfriend or even their former wife. Moreover, such behavior does not depend on age, financial status, or religious beliefs - that is, it does not depend on anything at all. In a word, not everyone returns and not always.

The idea that any man will definitely return is a myth created by those who are trying to console a woman who is experiencing the departure of a man and the breakdown of a relationship. It is interesting that this myth has existed for a very long time, and it is most often supported by women themselves.

A daughter, goddaughter, best friend are crying from a seemingly irrevocable loss... Well, how can one not console and assure that “he won’t go anywhere, because they all come back.”

Again, if a woman (and especially a young girl) believes that a traitor and traitor will certainly knock on a familiar door again, then it is really easier for her to survive the breakup, because, firstly, she understands that she must be attractive (at just in case); secondly, she must strive and achieve something in order to show when meeting that she herself is able to cope with everything; thirdly, it’s easier to find some activities (from cooking courses to learning Japanese) in order to demonstrate that you’re busy on occasion.

Of course, if there are children left in the family left behind, then you don’t have to look for additional activities so often, because children always require a lot of attention, and a lot of time and effort.

Unfortunately, the fact remains: the same omniscient statistics claim that the return of a departed man should still be perceived not as a pattern, but as a kind of exception. And it’s hardly any consolation that more often than not, the next chosen one of an unfaithful person will most likely resemble the abandoned one - in any case, this happens almost all the time.

Why does a man either return or leave for good?

It turns out that a man (age doesn’t matter) can leave and come back or leave and disappear forever. What should we look for the reason?

First, let's answer the question of what the relationship between a man and a woman is based on. Of course, the answer will be words about love, affection, admiration. But in fact, at the heart of any romantic relationship there is a certain agreement, which most often no one speaks out loud, and sometimes does not even suspect. And only with a deep psychological analysis is it revealed what exactly the relationship of a particular couple was built on.

The basis of such a unique agreement on which the couple’s relationship is based can be a sexual component, a financial or any other material component, an emotional component, or a combination of them in any proportion.

Of course, in the overwhelming majority of cases, neither party communicates either its claims or its obligations under such an agreement, but it is the violation of obligations that leads to both the rupture of the agreement and the severance of relations.

It is absolutely clear that if a man believed that dinner and comfort would always be waiting for him at home, but in fact the woman is not even going to cook, then the love of such a couple will disappear very quickly. But if a man got married so that he would always have a beautiful and uninhibited sexual partner at hand, then cutlets most likely will not interest him, but classic statements about headaches will put an end to the relationship very quickly.

Very often, violations of such a unique and often tacit agreement are discovered at the beginning of a relationship, which is why many marriages collapse in the first years, or even in the first months.

The initiator of a breakup is most often the woman, since it is the woman who perceives everything that happens more emotionally and does not want to forgive deception, lies, or, even worse, betrayal. This is especially pronounced at the beginning of a relationship, when there are no children yet and there are many opportunities to build a new relationship with another person.

No matter how strange it may seem, men most often return to those women who themselves broke off the relationship and showed the man the door. If a man left on his own, on his own initiative, then the chances of his return tend to zero, and any attempts to return him will be either completely unsuccessful or very short-lived.

What happens? If a man was expelled from the family because he seriously “messed up,” then it is he who will try to return. Why?

What reasons do men most often give for leaving their family?

Meetings, walks, parks, boats... Cinema, kisses, ice cream... The decision to live together and life together in all its glory, that is, with everyday problems, without romance, with dripping taps and bills for electricity, telephone and other utility bills...

They say that it is because of everyday life that many family boats break, however, as the results of sociological research show, in those families where there are no material problems in principle, wrecks are also quite possible.

Who is guilty? This age-old question always requires a complete and honest answer. How do you determine a guilty man? What reasons do they give most often for leaving their family?

Reason #1, it is also a completely universal reason for leaving the family, - incompatibility of characters. It’s interesting that the concept of “character incompatibility” is sometimes interpreted into something completely different: sometimes it’s an outlook on life, sometimes an opinion about Chinese cuisine; sometimes temperament, sometimes political views; either the presence of bad habits, or an unwillingness to take into account the opinion of the other half... Most often, the banal phrase “incompatibility of characters” can hide disrespect for each other, lack of love and mutual understanding. And if no one in the family hears anyone, understands, or respects anyone, then where do the characters have to do with it? And what kind of family are we talking about?

But it may also be that a man does not want to leave his bachelor habits for anything (he walks almost until the morning, spends money solely at his own discretion, throws socks and towels together in the wash) and does not want to hear any objections. And again: are we talking about character compatibility? Probably, behind the words about incompatibility, the man is simply trying to hide some of his shortcomings, inability or unwillingness to negotiate and make concessions.

Reason number 2 - the wife’s untidiness. It happens that men cite the reason for a broken relationship as the lack of a manicure or a spouse’s hairstyle, or an old tracksuit, or wrinkles that have appeared, or rough skin on their hands... They say that men love with their eyes, that is, their delicate mental organization cannot come to terms with an unfashionable haircut, or with hair dyed at the wrong time, or worn out slippers...

And it would be understandable, albeit with difficulty, if such claims were made by a certain handsome man well-groomed to the tips of his nails, but often such or similar claims are made by a creature in holey socks and training trousers with outstretched knees. And this citizen’s refined taste is offended by the lack of a French manicure on his wife’s hands? Is there nothing that can offend the wife in this sad spectacle? Or maybe the golden treasure offered to vacuum the apartment, or even wash the kitchen? Yeah, wait! But don’t rush around with a mop and rag in an evening dress, so that your loved one can delight his rather beer-stained gaze!

Of course, sometimes the appearance of any person does not require a photo shoot, but you should still be realistic and understand that untidiness as a reason for breaking up a relationship can be true in about one case out of several tens, or even hundreds of thousands.

Reason number 3 - sexual dissatisfaction. It is difficult to argue that for complete harmony of family life the sexual component is very important. However, it would not hurt to take into account several more factors.

Firstly, different people have completely different temperaments, and it is very strange that this issue was not clarified even before the official marriage, because now many couples first live in a civil marriage, and only then enter into an official marriage.

Secondly, after washing, cooking, cleaning, ironing and other household chores, a woman may not always have some kind of erotic desire - a feeling of fatigue is much more likely. And what kind of rough sex is there if the only desire is just to sleep? But a woman also devotes a lot of time and effort to her children, especially when they are very young.

No one disputes that a man’s sexual appetites may sometimes remain not fully satisfied. But is a man always ready not only to frolic in bed and make his erotic fantasies come true, but also, at least partially, to relieve his wife of household chores and problems, so that she still has the desire not only to quickly fall asleep and at least get some rest?

Reason No. 4 which men call is routine. Every day is the same, every weekend is the same. No novelty, no bright emotions, nothing new and exciting...

But many men seriously consider themselves hunters! At the same time, they are somehow uninterested in “hunting” for the well-being of the family, because it is somehow monotonous. Now, if you pick up that beauty over there and head to Cyprus! Or at least to the nearest beach on the local river...

But the fact is that family life simply cannot consist of continuous fireworks and holidays and most often consists of routine tasks: cleaning, washing, cooking, caring for children and house plants or animals require consistency.

Birthdays happen only once a year, vacations are also much shorter than routine and annoying everyday life. And the life of a long-legged beauty, which today seems like a holiday, may ultimately turn out to be even more boring and incomprehensible.

Perhaps it would be smarter to replace the word “routine” with the word “stability”?

However, are women to blame? Is it possible to control a calm, balanced, reasonable and reliable man?

And if the craving for freedom is expressed in a constant desire to “gallop off to the pampas” and in a persistent reluctance to do at least something useful in the house, then maybe let him get his freedom?

However, doesn’t this plot resemble the famous fable of Ivan Krylov? After all, any freedom and any fluttering must be ensured by something and someone. And where is he going to go in search of freedom? Maybe he knows a lady who really sincerely agrees to deal with a “free hunter”?

Reason number 6 - adultery. Whether anyone would like it or not, husbands cheat on their wives, and wives sometimes cheat on their husbands. Sometimes betrayal is accidental, sometimes it is unfortunate circumstances, but sometimes it is truly betrayal.

Let's add male pride to this, add a sense of ownership - and here you have leaving the family.

Although there are other cases where a man, even despite obvious betrayals, simply does not want to change anything in his established life and prefers to pretend that he does not notice anything.

What if this is love?

No matter how much they scold and condemn men who left the family, and no matter how stupid, far-fetched and frivolous the reasons for their leaving may seem, there is one reason that is completely valid. And this good reason is called love.

Many women who are left alone are perplexed: after all, they used to love them. What happened now?

It's no secret that over the course of a person's life, their ideas, preferences, and social circles change. And no one is surprised if a person by the age of thirty has become somewhat different than he was at eighteen. Probably, in the same way one can understand that over time the circle of friends also changes, and this process occurs especially quickly when teenagers finish school and adult life begins: some go to college, some work, some -army... And this new life can very seriously change a young man, completely change his priorities.

That is why very early marriages are extremely rarely very strong and stable: youthful delight and youthful love are replaced by mature feelings, which do not always coincide with semi-childish relationships.

Of course, it is very sad when children are left in a broken family, but it is the early pregnancy of a partner that often becomes the reason for early marriage. However, life without love is no less sad, life in an atmosphere of deception. What is it like for children in such a family? And a young mother who got married without even having time to take a closer look at life will most likely be able to find true love and build a real family.

Six main reasons for a man to return

I wonder who formulated the ancient Eastern wisdom that says that you cannot step into the same river twice? However, some men still try to return to the woman they once left, and the scenario of leaving was not always peaceful. What motivates these representatives of the strong half of the human race?

Men claim that, having been alone, they understood a lot and rethought a lot, so they are ready to try again and ask to be given a chance to prove that everything will be different. But will it happen? And what actually draws men to return?

1. The first reason is sex. If we face the truth, sexual relationships really play a huge role in every person’s life. And if the couple’s sexual relationship was very harmonious, then the man will undoubtedly want to return to them. And this is precisely what will represent a very serious incentive to return.

   However, life consists of many aspects, and if during the first attempt to create a family, some aspects of life still outweighed even the most ideal and unique sex, then where is the guarantee that everything will not happen again the second time?

   Unfortunately, adults really change so rarely that these cases are counter-intuitive and all of them can be considered exceptions. The man came back for sex?

   Wonderful! But there are many other sides to life, and if a man has not been able to satisfactorily resolve any issues other than sexual ones before, will he be able to this time? Will the woman be left with good sex this time, but with a bunch of other problems, and not only her own? And can a woman be sure that with the birth of a child, when she is completely occupied with the baby, the hero-lover will not go looking for another good sex, but this time on the side?

2. The second reason is rethinking. It is known that the best way to learn something is to experience it firsthand (the so-called experiential learning path). Having been alone and missing the comfort of home, a man can reflect and change some lines of his behavior in order to make an attempt to return.

   Of course, this option is quite possible, and a man can indeed take into account some of his wrong actions and actions. However, we should not forget that a person can change only in early childhood, and after five years all changes are most often explained only by external adaptation to the demands of society, while inside a person is unlikely to change.

   Of course, any, even the most pragmatic woman wants to believe in miracles, but in real life miracles do not happen... Has the man who swears that he has rethought everything changed? May be…

   However, upon returning to a familiar environment and familiar surroundings, it is very likely that the previous behavioral patterns will return. Of course, if a woman feels that her main purpose in life is to correct the shortcomings of an adult man, then she can make another try. However, I remember the first attempt was unsuccessful...

3. The third reason is loneliness. A man who leaves his family for some reason believes that either he doesn’t need anyone, or he can easily find a replacement for the broken relationship.

   However, real long-term loneliness suits only very few people, and finding a full-fledged replacement is also very often very difficult. Therefore, the man, having suffered himself and realizing that nothing better is in sight, makes attempts to return: he either calls by phone, or “accidentally” meets him on the street. What if you manage to infiltrate an old reliable place? And then, you see, everything will go as before...

   Of course, it happens that the return of the “prodigal parrot” can be quite successful if a person has really seriously revised some of his positions and views, but there is a very high chance of repeating old mistakes and the old path - right up to the previous ending. But this path can become more difficult and more traumatic.

4. Reason four - there was no better solution. Most men, leaving a family, think that they will be able to build a completely new relationship and that with another woman and in another family everything will be completely different.

   However, most often it doesn’t work out any other way. And this happens simply because “everyone is the same in the arena,” that is, the man has remained the same, his habits, desires and capabilities have remained the same, so often all the complaints against this person are repeated in the new family.

   In addition, a rather big surprise can be expected from memory, which most often brings to the fore only something good and pleasant: coffee on a Sunday morning, a huge birthday cake, walking together, rescuing a kitten abandoned by someone... And it is these memories prevent you from starting a normal life with another woman.

   But that’s not all: now everyday life in its most varied manifestations is entering the arena. There are too many (not enough) onions (pepper, salt) in the cutlets; The porridge is not crumbly enough, the shirt was bought from the wrong brand, the stores you should go to are not the ones you are used to...

   Thus, it turns out that it is quite likely that there will be a desire to return to the “ex”, which, whatever one may say, today seems to be a more comfortable option.

5. The fifth reason is the “re-discounting” of values. Sometimes men leave the family for completely unmanly reasons - but simply to get rid of some problems, for example, domestic or material ones.

   Where can one run in this case from a bitchy wife who demands the entire salary, who, to the point of scandals, does not approve of drinking gatherings with supposed friends, wants some kind of repairs... And the man goes to rehabilitation - of course, to his mother.

   Mom immediately begins to rejoice wildly and buys another bottle, reports that all her life she could not stand “this little girl you foolishly married”... And then most mothers cheerfully take all the power into their own hands (more precisely, they had no intention of to let go of power). And the man will either have to come to terms with the role assigned to him by his mother, that is, with the role of a mother’s boy and a henpecked man, or change something... Change his mother? It's even funny to listen to! Change yourself? What for?

   So the thought arises that with my wife, even though my mother doesn’t love her, it wasn’t so bad. And it’s better to visit your mother on weekends (or, even better, only on holidays).

6. The sixth reason is the desire to teach a lesson. Sometimes a man doesn’t like something about his wife: it could be her work schedule, the habit of waking her up ungodly early on a day off (before two o’clock in the afternoon), constant questions about her salary, the requirement to brush her teeth in the evening... But you never know, any woman has shortcomings ? And it’s quite possible to teach such a slow-witted person a lesson! What is the best and most intelligible way to teach a lesson? That's right, turn around and leave! The wife, of course, will be very scared and will immediately correct herself!

   Well, he left... But the question of whether such a “teacher” can come back may not have a positive answer. Apparently, not all men remember that women very often adhere to the principle “when you leave, go away,” moreover, leaving the family for “educational purposes,” men often forget that their pseudo-education may well turn against them and that they are very they risk being left alone, which hardly anyone would call proud, but stupid, no matter what.

Why do women let men come back?

A broken cup or plate is most often thrown into the trash. And only some especially valuable specimens that have collection value are subject to restoration. But no one uses such exclusive cups, the cracks on which are neatly sealed, for tea drinking, that is, for their intended purpose.

So why do women who know everything about broken cups try to mend cracked or even completely destroyed relationships? Is this reasonable? And it’s even more strange if a woman allows a man to leave the family and return several times.

Probably, many women are afraid to be alone. But is it better to sit and wait by the sea for weather or for the return of your husband, who has galloped off to another “hunt”?

Some women traditionally explain their permission to return by their difficult financial situation. What can I say? It can only be noted that in the modern world a woman is not so dependent on a man in material terms and that work, especially in a large populated area, can always be found - it all depends on determination and perseverance.

Another reason that women often give is “where would he, poor thing, be without me?” or “he will be lost without me.” But when he left, he was thinking about something?

And you can hear many other reasons, although only one can be considered truly serious - love, and mutual love.

Indeed, anyone can make a mistake; wrong actions happen in the life of any person. And it is very important to correct this mistake in time and never repeat it again. The same applies to a man leaving. If it was a mistake that he admitted and is correcting, that’s one thing, but if it’s promiscuity, selfishness, unwillingness to take others into account, then why does the family need this?

conclusions

Why do men leave and return? They are not leaving to defend their country from an enemy invasion, but simply to take a break from family responsibilities, live on their own, relax...

Because a real man is strength, reliability and confidence in the future, and not endless problems and traveling “back and forth”...

Why is it coming back? There are many reasons why men come back after a breakup. Human psychology is structured in a complex way, so it’s worth understanding everything in order. Men come back because:

• They feel uncomfortable being without their chosen one; her role in their life is quite large.
• In comparison, truth is born. It often happens that the ex, in the opinion of the man, has better qualities than the new passion.
• A representative of the stronger half of humanity sometimes needs time to understand how deep his feelings are for his former chosen one. When they are serious enough, the relationship resumes.

These are the most common reasons why men come back after a breakup. Psychology is a complex thing, it’s not that easy to understand.

How long did it take for them to return to you?

Left alone, a woman gets a little more free time, which should not be spent bursting into tears, reveling in her own grief and complaining to everyone she meets about her tragic fate. This period can be perfectly filled with useful activities.

Attention

First of all, calm down, listen to yourself, understand what you want and not what you need. It's time to love your nature. This is where building healthy and happy relationships with people around you begins.

A woman who values ​​and loves herself will definitely attract a worthy partner. Thoughts of men I wonder what men think after a breakup? As a rule, they also try to understand themselves and their feelings.
Some people simply try to take a break from their life together, devote time to hobbies, and meet with friends.

Have your exes come back to you?

Those who immediately jumped into new ones from a previous relationship, in the initial period enjoy the novelty of communication, burning passion, etc. Then the time comes when a man makes a choice - to remain alone, develop a new relationship or return to his ex-woman.

Actions and feelings of a young man The behavior of men after a breakup is sometimes surprising. Especially if the initiative to break up lies with him. Instead of completely disappearing from his ex’s life, he begins to look for meetings, regularly reminds him of himself, and tries to attract attention.
Often a man calls after a breakup, catching his ex by surprise. Such actions occur when the perpetrator of the breakup feels confused.
After all, he is not used to being alone, making any decisions on his own, especially if the couple has been together for a long period of time. A man's feelings after a breakup are ambiguous.

Have your exes ever returned to you...

Moreover, this is also one of the reasons why girls return to their ex-lovers. If the couple was connected only by sex, which suited both of them completely, then the emotional relationship, in essence, was just a shell.
A man or woman will sooner or later leave the couple, trying to find new interesting connections and try their luck. Also, the cause may be pregnancy or illness - conditions in which intimacy fades into the background.

Having searched for new sensations, the guys become bored, and they are already planning the scenario for their return. The girls go even further and depict the pangs of separation. And the relationship continues from the moment it left off, when one of the couple went towards new sensations.

Duty and responsibility A sense of responsibility is the reason why girls return to their exes, but it also happens the other way around.

Have your exes come back to you?

Older men like to devote their free time to their favorite activities, such as fishing, hunting, etc. During this period, it is better to support your partner; with his permission, you can join his hobby.

Then, perhaps, common interests and topics for communication will arise.

When and why men return after a breakup: psychology

And although I know the strategy for returning an ex-boyfriend, as well as the successful results of its application, this requires considerable effort on the part of the woman and remarkable determination. And now the million-dollar question: Why, after such a breakup, do some men come back and try to start a relationship with a woman again? Why did HE return and what to do about it? Let's understand the reasons and what to do if the ex returns? Men learn from their mistakes, but for the most part they do not do it as quickly as women.

They come back to try again, but after they have realized something. I must say that such comebacks rarely end well. But the main question still remains - why do they come back? There are several explanations for this phenomenon: 1 Unforgettable sex. No man can refuse good sex.

Why do men come back after a breakup?

After all, if you take something out of the refrigerator and find it has gone bad, you throw it away. I hope you don't have the idea of ​​putting it back in the fridge in the hope that it will be fresh for tomorrow? In this case it’s about the same – it’s still better to “throw it away”. 3

He's lonely again. Men, once again left alone, usually try to reconnect with their former girlfriends. The reasons may be different, but they are all basically already mentioned above.

It usually starts with an innocent phone call, SMS or email. Using these simple techniques, a man “tests the waters” and tries to determine, based on the woman’s reaction, whether something is “right” or “not right” for him. Although some relapse relationships can work out well, women need to approach rekindling an old romance very carefully.
On the one hand, he is overwhelmed by a feeling of freedom and lightness, on the other hand, he often becomes a hostage to this situation. At first this does not pose any problem. However, then the situation becomes a little more complicated.
When a man is simply left alone with himself, it is much easier for him to figure things out. If a young man has another girlfriend... If at that moment he is in the company of a new chosen one, he most often just wants to run away. The relationship seems to captivate him, but it’s one thing to sneakily see his mistress, enjoy intrigue and passionate meetings, and quite another thing to live with her on the same territory. In everyday life one gets to know oneself as well as possible. And a once sweet stranger can instantly turn into a grumpy roommate. It happens that having caught his chosen one communicating with his ex, the current passion shows his true face for the first time.

Did your ex-boyfriend come back to you and after how long?

Therefore, she begins to wait for her boyfriend to return to her again. Days, weeks, months pass, and he does not return. After this, the girl frantically searches for information on the Internet to find out “the exact or approximate timing of the return of her ex-boyfriend.” But she doesn't understand the naivety of her question, because according to statistics, such returns are the exception rather than the rule, and they are very rare. Having not found an answer, the girl continues to wait, depriving herself of the opportunity to move on and build new relationships. It is sad. Let’s finish the digression and return to the topic of the article. Let’s get to the answer to the question “Why do ex-boyfriends come back?” in a business way. Any romantic relationship is a kind of contract drawn up on some specific basis: sexual, financial, emotional, or a combination of all of the above.
The content of the article

• 1 Psychology of male behavior
  • 1.1 Lack of attention
  • 1.2 Feeling of competition
  • 1.3 Playing on feelings
  • 1.4 Holy simplicity
  • 1.5 Intimate harmony
  • 1.6 Duty and responsibility
  • 1.7 Love for a child
  • 1.8 Life for two families
• 2 What to do in such a situation

When the breakup is already over and even the bitter aftertaste has long turned into only memories, women are often faced with the fact that the man returns, and this event always takes him by surprise. Why do men come back after a breakup, and is it worth thinking about resuming a relationship? Psychology of male behavior If men return after a breakup, psychology explains this act by several subconscious, and sometimes conscious, levers in the man’s behavior.

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When visiting a store you should have with you:

• passport;
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What to do if the check is lost?

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Receiving funds when returning goods already paid for by credit card is a process that, depending on various conditions, can take only a few days, and may take several months and cost the buyer a lot of nerves, sleepless nights and personal time.

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